Chopra/Oprah Tour–A Class Act

Last night, Oprah welcomed spiritual master Deepak Chopra to her life class at Radio City Music Hall in New York. A global leader in the field of mind-body medicine, Deepak Chopra is a prolific author of 65 books, including 19 New York Times bestsellers.

Throughout the two-hour program, Oprah and Deepak Chopra discussed and  answered questions about spirituality. I particularly liked the segment where he shared his STOP formula for controlling unwanted thoughts.

S=Stop

T=Take three deep breaths

O=Observe what is happening in your body

P=Proceed with kindness and compassion

Quotable Quotes…

5. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

4.  The highest form of intelligence is being able to observe yourself without judgment.

3.  You can believe the diagnosis, but never believe the prognosis.

2.  I use memories, but I do not allow memories to use me.

1.  The past is gone. The future is not here. Now I am free of both. Choose joy.

What is your favourite quote?

Inspired by the JAWS story

It is easy to get discouraged when working on any long-term project. While there are days when everything flows smoothly, the occasional setback can derail my well-laid plans and prevent me from moving forward.

Whenever I hit a slump, I recall the story behind the making of JAWS.

In 1973, the late producer David Brown, came across Peter Benchley’s novel Jaws and spent an entire evening reading the book. He and fellow producer Richard D. Zanuck agreed that it was “the most exciting thing that they had ever read” and purchased the movie rights. Later, Brown said that if he had read the book twice, he would never have made the film.

They reluctantly hired a young, unknown director named Steven Spielberg and set a shoestring budget of $3.5 million and a shooting schedule of 55 days. The budget escalated to $12 million and it took 155 days to film the movie. The 26-foot mechanical shark was never tested for use and sunk to the bottom of the harbour on its first day in the waters off Martha’s Vineyard.

This setback was actually a blessing in disguise. When Spielberg realized he wouldn’t have too much working footage of the shark, he used shots, music and dialogue to create an eerie and tense vibe. The music score by John Williams has become one of the most recognizable pieces of music ever created for a film. Whenever I watch the movie, I am always aware of the shark’s presence.

In addition to the technical problems, Spielberg had to deal with bickering between actors Robert Shaw and Richard Dreyfuss. Author Peter Benchley disapproved of the film’s climax and was booted off the set.

The rest is movie box office history: JAWS became a big summer blockbuster and the first film to break $100 million in box-office totals.

Memorable quote from David Brown: Under no circumstances face the facts.

Sundays for Writers

This afternoon, I joined several other members of Guelph Write Now for our monthly meeting at Lucie’s Restaurant in south Guelph. I look forward to meeting with other writers and talking about our respective writing journeys.

Lots of discussion and advice floated around the table as we discussed the pros and cons of social media, ebook covers, our WIPs and Fifty Shades of Grey. Organizer Cindy Carroll provided us with three prompts and we wrote spontaneously. Afterward, we shared out stories and commented on the different interpretations of the prompts.

We also enjoyed the delicious coffee, tea and desserts.

Book Review: The Prosperous Heart

The author of more than thirty books—fiction and nonfiction—Julia Cameron is best known for her international bestseller, The Artist’s Way, which has helped millions of people realize their creative dreams. While conducting lectures and facilitating workshops over a thirty-five year period, Cameron discovered that many of her students did not want to talk about money and felt they could handle anything but money. She decided to write The Prosperous Heart, a book that would give her students “the tools to address their money issues directly while maintaining spiritual balance and an active creative life.”

Fans of Cameron’s books will recognize two of the tools: Morning Pages (three hand-written stream-of-consciousness journal pages written each morning) and a twenty-minute daily walk. New tools include Counting, recording each penny earned and saved in a small journal; Abstinence, a complete abstaining from any further debt; and Time-Outs, two five-minute periods of sitting quietly to consciously count your blessings or simply rest.

Cameron provides short exercises to complete as we go through the 12-week program and at the end of each chapter (week), there is a check-in and a list of “prosperity points.” She advises us to “choose the exercises you are most attracted to and the ones you are most resistant to. Our resistance often points us toward ‘pay dirt.’”

While guiding us through the prosperity plan, Cameron encourages us to be open to the unexpected gifts and answers that may appear along the way. In describing her recent move from New York to Santa Fe, Cameron demonstrates what can happen when we step out of our comfort zones. She explains, “I often find when my students shake the apple tree, oranges fall. And oranges may have been just what they were looking for after all.”

She stresses the need to accept even the smallest steps as progress and makes comparisons to other 12-step programs. In the chapter on forgiveness, she advises us to let go of “feelings, beliefs, and circumstances that do not serve you” and “open the door to allow the Higher Power to co-pilot your life.” While she liberally uses the word God throughout the book, she encourages readers to make their own substitutions.

Unlike other financial gurus, Julia Cameron does not preach or scream her message as she addresses the practical side of the creative life. The tone is a much gentler one which recognizes the greyness that often surrounds money issues. When outlining the prosperity plan, she reminds us that we will “slip backward and revert to old spending habits.” But the important thing is not to be discouraged. She ends the book with the following message: “Living a prosperous life means living a day at a time. It means starting over each morning, forgiving ourselves and beginning anew when we make mistakes, picking ourselves up when we fall, keeping on track.”

End of an Awesome Era

Neil Pasricha has posted the last entry in  1000awesomethings.com

Since 2008, Neil has been writing about the small joys of his life. He started the blog as a way of cheering himself up during a dark period in his life. He was surprised when his daily ritual found unexpected success. Eleven months after his first entry, he won his first of three Webby awards and went on to secure lucrative book deals for three best-selling books: The Book of Awesome, The Book of Even More Awesome and The Book of Holiday Awesome.

In a recent interview, Pasricha said, “I found therapy and I found friendship by writing about simple pleasures every day.”

Some highlights…

#999   The last, crumby triangle in a bag of potato chips

#864   Mastering the art of the all-you-can-eat buffet

#567   Getting to the light at the end of the tunnel

#356   Wearing your boyfriend’s sweatshirt

#126   When someone brings you a coffee just the way you like it

#25     Kindergarten class photos

#2        Remembering how lucky we are how to have right now

#1       Anything you want it to be

Watch the Book of Awesome trailer.


Book Review: The Imposter Bride

It is a woman’s worst nightmare.

After she crosses two oceans, Lily Azerov learns that  her prospective husband no longer wants her. Fortunately, his brother steps in and offers to marry her instead.

But Lily, the imposter bride, has more pressing problems. Described as a “broken bird” by her mother-in-law, this fragile woman cannot adapt to her new life in post-WWII Montreal. She has stolen a dead woman’s identity and feels survivor’s guilt as she absorbs memories, dreams and fantasies that do not belong to her. After giving birth to a daughter, Lily leaves Montreal.

The book alternates between chapters told in third person and those narrated by Lily and her daughter, Ruth. As Ruth matures, she becomes more curious about the mysterious mother who left behind an uncut diamond and a Yiddish notebook.

The larger cast of characters includes other broken souls, among them Bella, who lost three children during the Russian Revolution, and Ida Pearl, a local jeweller who was abandoned by a philandering husband. Each of the characters claims to have some insight into why Lily really left.

Canadian novelist Nancy Richler has written a compelling story that will keep you reading well into the night.

Oprah in Toronto

With over 8500 people assembled at the Metro Toronto Centre,  Oprah achieved her dream of having the world’s largest classroom. Joining her were four Master Class life teachers–Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra and Bishop T.D. Jakes–her spiritual mod squad. The two-hour life class dealt with the power of forgiveness. Throughout the evening, Oprah and the mod squad stressed the fact that forgiveness can set us free.

So many wonderful insights…

Iyanla Vanzant

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.

Too many people are spiritually constipated and emotionally retarded. Forgiveness is a spiritual laxative.

Tony Robbins

Become aware of your love patterns.

Level 1–Baby or brat love

Level 2–Horse Trading (you give only to get)

Level 3–Real love

Level 4–Pure spirit love as demonstrated by Nelson Mandela and Dalai Lama

Deepak Chopra

Process your pain or it will surface as disease.

Holding onto resentment is like holding your breath–you suffocate.

What other people think about you is not your business. If you make it your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.

Bishop T.D. Jakes

Unforgiveness unchecked becomes a cancer in our soul.

Forgive so you can detach from the poison.

If you forget, you lose the wisdom from the experience.

When you taste one segment of your life in isolation, it is bitter. Combine all the segments and it will taste better.

Do not expect people to love on a gallon level if they are pint people.

Irrigate your life with gallon people.

Movie Review: The Way with Martin Sheen

Martin Sheen plays Tom, an American doctor who receives news that his son, Daniel, has been killed on the Camino de Santiago, an 800-kilometre pilgrimage route also known as The Way of St. James. Tom goes to France to collect the body and decides to honour his son’s memory by completing the journey. Along the way, he leaves piles of Daniel’s ashes. Determined to complete this journey on his own, he shrugs off most offers of goodwill and pays little attention to the companions who join him.

The journey transforms Tom and his companions.  As one of the characters comments, “No one walks the Camino by accident.” At the start, each pilgrim has an agenda, but there is a profound shift of values along the way.

Described as a “hymn to travel and transformation,” this inspirational movie includes stunning vistas of the Franco-Spanish trail and a soundtrack featuring such artists as James Taylor, Alanis Morissette and Coldplay.

Memorable lines…

You don’t choose a life, you live one.

Walk the way for yourself.

Miracles happen on the Camino de Santiago.

Do we honour the poor by imitating them?

Interesting note: Emilio Estevez (Sheen’s son) wrote and directed The Way. He also appears briefly in the film as Daniel.


Book Review: Tell It to the Trees

This is not a feel-good book. 

Set outside the fictitious town of Merrit’s Point in northern British Columbia during the 1970s, the story begins with the discovery of a tenant’s frozen body in the backyard of the Dharma family’s isolated home. Montreal-based writer Anita Rau Badami uses four shifting narrators to slowly unveil the sequence of events that led to this tragic death.

We hear from Varsha, the troubled teenage daughter, who was abandoned by her birth mother. Her stepmother, the sweet and gentle Suman, dreams of escaping from Vikram, her abusive husband, while managing the bleak reality of her life with excessive cooking and cleaning. Hemant, the sensitive seven-year old son, is haunted by ghosts and feels burdened by the many secrets floating in the multi-generational Indian home. We also hear from the dead tenant, Anu Krishnan, through her journals.

When Anu Krishnan first arrived at the Dharam home, she enjoyed Suman’s delicious Indian cooking and sat for hours listening to the tales told by Akka, the family matriarch. She welcomed the isolation and felt inspired to write short stories. Soon, however, the perfect facade of the Dharma family unravels and Anu becomes wrapped up in the drama.

The family’s chilling secrets start to come out, despite everyone’s efforts to maintain appearances. While Akka complains about their life in Jehannum (hell), she is fiercely protective of the family and urges the children to hold it in. If the secrets threaten to come out, Varsha and Hemant must tell only the trees.

Another character occupies center stage in this novel: Winter. In a recent interview, Badami admitted to this guilty little secret, “I dread the white nothingness that creeps into my soul and stays there for six long months…It’s not the cold that gets to me as much as the lack of colour. Having grown up in India where colour is overwhelmingly present, my longing of it reaches its zenith during our winters.”

Her dislike of the Canadian winters is apparent in the vivid descriptions throughout the novel. When Suman arrives in Canada, it is late March, “a time when the ground is knee-deep in snow, and your breath hangs like a ghost before your face.” Later, Suman names her son Hemant for winter, the season in which he was born.

Anita Rau Badami skilfully describes the cycle of abuse and how it is passed down through the generations. Many of us have asked the questions: Why doesn’t the woman just leave? Why does she continue to make excuses for the man’s behaviour?

This book provides the answers.

Nuggets from Bishop T.D. Jakes

Oprah said it best. “He isn’t a preacher. He’s a prophet.”

On Monday night, Bishop T. D. Jakes was featured on Oprah’s Life Class. The founder of the 30,000-member Potter’s House Church in Dallas ignited the members of the studio and worldwide audience with his insightful comments. I am looking forward to reading his latest book, Let It Go.

In the meantime, I am  reflecting upon his many nuggets of wisdom.

My Top Five…

5. Don’t allow your situation to become your world when it’s just a launching pad into the next dimension of your life.

4. Don’t ask permission for what you are directed to do.

3. You cannot embrace your destiny if you’re holding on to your history.

2. Don’t let other people put a period where God has put a comma.

1. You need to be around people who make deposits not withdrawals.

What is your favorite nugget?