Reading as a Writer

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In a recent post on the Writer Unboxed blog, award-winning author Greer Macallister shared the following insights:

I don’t remember the time before I was a reader, just as I don’t remember the time before I was a writer. I’ve always read for the joy of it. Now, as a published author, I read for a number of other reasons as well, but the joy, if I look for it, is still there.

It’s one of the reasons I don’t have much patience for people who think they should write a book but can’t remember the last one they read once that wasn’t assigned in high school or college. People who say “I’m going to revolutionize [genre]!” without ever having read a book in that genre. People who claim proudly that they’re the first to write a book that addresses a certain situation or worldview without doing the research to figure out how many books exist in that space already.

Because for most of the writers I know, we can’t un-link the two. We started writing because we loved reading. We’re over the moon that we have become the people we once looked up to, creating stories that fill readers with emotion. We may not read at a blistering pace given life’s other demands and temptations, but if you give us the freedom and space to choose an activity, reading is going to be high on the list.

Reading is also an important job responsibility as an author. I used to say that I read less frequently for pleasure these days because I’m so often reading for professional reasons, like manuscripts to blurb, books I’m reviewing, or novels I’m interviewing fellow authors about for in-conversation events. But I’ve realized that all the reading I do, even with an expectation attached, is still a source of pleasure for me. I’ve never subscribed to the aphorism that “if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life” — it’s still work — but it is significantly easier to get through that work if you find it enjoyable.

On occasion, I do find that my identity as a writer influences how I read. I fully admit that if I know a novel has been wildly successful, I too often go into reading it with a chip on my shoulder, jealous of the writer’s success. I acknowledge the bias. It also turns out that in most of these cases — most recently for Lessons in Chemistry, The Wedding People, and The Correspondent — midway through the book, I find myself acknowledging Oh, yes, I get it. I’m reading differently than I would be if I weren’t a writer, yes, but being a writer doesn’t make it impossible for me to enjoy someone else’s book. I may be more conscious of structure and technique than the average reader, but when the book is good, I can still get fully lost in it.

All this to say that if you are a writer, you are also a reader. What we read changes, but why we read remains the same. We read because we are readers. We are readers because books bring us joy. And we are writers (at least in part) because we want to bring that joy to others.

Source: Writer Unboxed


Confidence: No More Pretending

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking reflection from international speaker and bestselling author Joyce Meyer:

What is confidence? I believe confidence is all about being positive concerning what you can do and not worrying over what you can’t do. Confident people do not concentrate on their weaknesses; they develop and maximize their strengths.

Let’s say you are not a “numbers” kind of person. On a scale of 1 to 10, you might be a 3. You could obsess about your inability to “do the math.” You could buy Math for Dummies and take a class at the community college. But your math obsession could eat up time that could be devoted to stuff you’re an 8 or a 10 at—like teaching God’s word, creative writing, or rallying support for charity. In other words, you might rob time and effort from the 10s in your life just to bring a lowly 3 up to a mediocre 5. When you look at it this way, it’s easy to see where you need to invest your efforts.

The world is not hungry for mediocrity. We really don’t need a bunch of 4s and 5s running around, doing an average job in life. This world needs 10s. I believe everyone can be a 10 at something.

Confidence allows you and me to face life with boldness, openness, and honesty. It enables us to live without worry and to feel safe. It enables us to live authentically. We don’t have to pretend to be somebody we’re not, because we are secure in who we are—even if we’re different from those around us. God has created every person in a unique way; yet, most people spend their lives trying to be like someone else and feeling miserable as a result. Trust me on this: God will never help you be some other person. He wants you to be you!

Source: Trusting God Day by Day by Joyce Meyer

Let Go | Breathe | Begin Again

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:

Imagine you’re blindfolded and treading water in the center of a large swimming pool, and you’re struggling desperately to grab the edge of the pool that you think is nearby, but really it’s not—it’s far away. Trying to grab that imaginary edge is stressing you out and tiring you out, as you splash around aimlessly trying to hold on to something that isn’t there.

Now imagine you pause, take a deep breath, and realize that there’s nothing nearby to hold on to. Just water around you. You can continue to struggle with grabbing at something that doesn’t exist… or you can accept that there’s only water around you, and relax, and float.

Truth be told, inner peace begins the moment you take a new breath and choose not to allow an uncontrollable event to dominate you in the present. You are not what happened to you. You are what you choose to become in this moment. Let go, breathe, and begin again.

Note: I highly recommend subscribing to Marc & Angel’s website.

Poetry Collection Review: What Kind of Woman

April is National Poetry Month, a month set aside to celebrate poetry and its vital place in our society. Launched by the Academy of American Poets in 1996, this month-long celebration has attracted millions of readers, students, teachers, librarians, booksellers, and poets.

Each Friday of April, I will share a favorite poetry collection.

Today’s pick is What Kind of Woman by Kate Baer, “a stunning and honest debut poetry collection about the beauty and hardships in being a mother, a wife, and a woman.”

When this debut collection was published in 2020, it climbed to the top of the New York Times Best Seller List. Divided into three parts (Woman, Wife, Mother), the poems stretch from five lines to a page and a half. While the entire collection could be read in one sitting, its insights and advice will linger long afterward.

I found myself gravitating toward the “advice” poems in each section, often feeling the urge to pause and take notes. I also questioned my own impulse to seek—or give—guidance and realized that while advice is easily dispensed, it is rarely absorbed. Often, that advice reveals more about the speaker than the listener.

In the poem “Robyn Hood,” Ms. Baer begins by asking “Imagine if we took back our diets” and then recommends taking back the time wasted on “grand delusions” and “the curve of our form” and focusing instead on “the power of loose arms and assurance.”

In the “Wife” section, Ms. Baer doesn’t mince words in the poem “For the Advice Cards at Bridal Showers.” She offers this blunt truth: “When someone asks for the secret to a happy marriage, remember you don’t know.”

In the “Mother” section, the advice becomes more pointed. In “For the Advice Cards at Baby Showers,” she writes:

“Baby socks don’t matter, but more importantly—
neither does advice. This is not a performance
for your friend or your mother or the woman
in line who tells you about coats.”

In this slim volume, Ms. Baer gives voice to a wide spectrum of the female experience. Readers may find themselves reflected in these poems—sometimes comforted, sometimes unsettled. Women of all ages will find several (if not many) poems that resonate. As for men, they may gain insights if they choose to read the poems with open hearts and minds.

Here’s one of my favorite poems:

Robyn Hood

Imagine if we took back our diets,
our grand delusions, the time spent
thinking about the curve of our form.
Imagine if we took back every time we
called attention to one or the other: her
body, our body, the bad shape of things.

Imagine the minutes that would stretch
into hours. Day after day, stolen back like
a thief.

Imagine the power of loose arms and
assurance. The years welcomed home
in a soft, cotton dress.

Poetry Collection Review: A Suit or a Suitcase

April is National Poetry Month, a month set aside to celebrate poetry and its vital place in our society. Launched by the Academy of American Poets in 1996, this month-long celebration has attracted millions of readers, students, teachers, librarians, booksellers, and poets.

Each Friday of April, I will share a favorite poetry collection.

Today’s pick is A Suit or a Suitcase by Maggie Smith, a collection described as “the work of a polished mind and an endlessly revised self…a poetry of grace.”

In a recent interview with Psychology Today, Ms. Smith offered a revealing glimpse into her creative process: “As it turns out, feeling unmoored is the perfect emotional weather for writing poems.” An unsettling observation, but one that seems to have shaped her creative work over the past five years, a period marked by her divorce and the pandemic.

Although she has published several works of prose, among them the memoir, You Could Make This Place Beautiful, and the craft guide, Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life, she calls poetry her “home genre.”

As she wrote the poems in this collection, Ms. Smith reflected on the evolution of her body across the stages of her life: childhood, young adulthood, new motherhood, and middle age. She moves easily between her inner and outer worlds as she contemplates the roles of music, nature, art, and relationships.

A series of intriguing questions emerges:

“How do I get back inside myself?

“What can I carry forward except these reminders?”

“Why not believe the shadow feels affection for the flesh?”

“Why can’t I remember some of the most harrowing moments?”

Ms. Smith has succeeded in making her keen observations and life experiences universal while allowing the poems to resonate quietly rather than demanding attention.

Here’s one of my favorite poems:

The Score

Sometimes I feel like I’m writing the score
for a film that doesn’t yet exist,

but everything that will happen
in the film will happen to me.

Is this what they call plot? This daily
picking up of the same things—

glasses, coffee cup, pen, book, keys—
and setting them back down again?

Narrative has always troubled me,
so I’ll leave that to someone else

and write the mood instead, also
approximating setting: a little piano

to suggest rain, and violin for a river,
long and thin. That key change?

A meander. If the score is plain
and sweet, it’s because the life is—

mostly. I don’t know how it ends,
but given the budget, it will end quietly.

One day I’ll find myself near a river,
and I’ll realize, This is that film,

the one I scored, and this is the scene where
rain starts falling
. And in that moment

it will, and it will sound like piano.

Be Flexible in Your Thinking

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In The Rules of Life, international bestselling author Richard Templar shares a personal code for living a better, happier, more successful kind of life. Here is an excerpt from Rule 7, “Be Flexible in Your Thinking”:

We all have set patterns in life. We like to label ourselves as this or that and are quite proud of our opinions and beliefs. We all like to read the same paper, watch the same sorts of TV programmes or movies, go to the same sort of shops every time, eat the same type of food that suits us, and wear the same type of clothes. And all this is fine. But if we cut ourselves off from all other possibilities, we become boring, rigid, hardened—and thus likely to get knocked about a bit.

You have to see life as a series of adventures. Each adventure is a chance to have fun, learn something, explore the world, expand your circle of experience and friends, and broaden your horizons. Shutting down to adventure means exactly that—you are shut down.

The second you are offered an opportunity to have an adventure, to change your thinking, to step outside of yourself, go for it and see what happens. If this thought scares you, remember that you can always go back into your shell the second it’s over, if you want to.

But even saying yes to every opportunity isn’t set in stone as a rule, because that would be inflexible. The really flexible thinkers know when to say ‘no’ as well as when to say ‘yes’.

If you want to know how flexible your thinking is, here are a couple of tests. Are the books by the side of your bed the same sorts of books you’ve always read? Have you found yourself saying anything like ‘I don’t know any people like that’ or ‘I don’t go to those kinds of places’? If so, then perhaps it’s time to broaden your mind and take the shackles off your thinking.

Source: The Rules of Life, p. 17

Poetry Collection Review: To the Women

April is National Poetry Month, a month set aside to celebrate poetry and its vital place in our society. Launched by the Academy of American Poets in 1996, this month-long celebration has attracted millions of readers, students, teachers, librarians, booksellers, and poets.

Each Friday of April, I will share a favorite poetry collection.

Today’s selection, To the Women: Wise Words Every Woman Needs, has been described as “a celebration of the beauty, strength, and joy of being a woman.”

When Donna Ashworth self-published the original version of this book in 2020, she could not have anticipated how profoundly it would reshape her life. At the time, she was adrift, unsure of what she was doing, where she was going, and what she wanted. Motherhood had slowed her down and allowed her to readjust her perspective. The “rat race” had lost its promise. She was tired of running too fast all the time and never keeping up.

To her astonishment, the book resonated with women in the United Kingdom and far beyond. What followed was not just success, but a whirlwind of connection, far greater than she had hoped. The 2025 edition has been revised and updated with over seventy new poems.

I set aside an entire day to read and sit with this collection, savoring the wisdom, comfort, and inspiration of beautifully written poems such as “Be That Woman,” “Age Gracefully, “There Will Be Days,” “Remember Her,” and “To the Woman Who Thinks She Isn’t Good Enough.” Underlying each poem is the importance of listening to our innermost voices, reconsidering long-held beliefs, and embracing the call to reinvent ourselves.

An ideal gift for any season or occasion, this collection will delight and resonate deeply with the poetry readers in your circle.

Here’s one of my favorite poems:

Age Gracefully

Age gracefully, they say
but I fear that what they mean
is age quietly, slip aside
be wise but stay unseen

age gracefully, they say
but I think, they’re afraid
that we may all wear purple
and wrap silver hair in braids

age gracefully, they say
don’t succumb to the knife
but don’t let standards drop
don’t wear your clothes too tight

age gracefully, they say
but don’t be looking old
likewise, not too young
take your place, fit the mold

age gracefully, they say
but grace means, being at ease
flowing with the winds of change
so, doing as we please

age gracefully, age tastefully
age like a fine red wine
just age with your acceptance
and you’ll never fear the lines

age gracefully, my friends
whatever path you tread
walk it with your own permission
it’s your home, so make your bed.