Embrace Every Moment

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:

As we all look forward to the next step in our lives, I know many of us are yearning for a simpler and more selective range of life experiences — the happy days, the normal times, the settings and experiences that make us feel more comfortable. And yet, the full range of our reality often brings something very different. The days ahead will inevitably offer an extensive array of experiences that evoke feelings ranging from sadness and struggle to growth and pride, and more.

So we have a choice starting today. We can revolt against reality — the reality of having to deal with discomfort, cope with uncertainty, and sometimes feel upset. Or we can embrace every experience life gives us, including all our highs and lows — all the blissful moments, frustrating ones, and everything in between. Life is not just happy and comfortable 24/7. It’s well-rounded, and it’s ever-changing.

Embracing the full range of life’s experiences means embracing every moment with our full presence, being open and vulnerable to reality, being gentle with ourselves when moments are tougher than we expected, and practicing sincere gratitude whenever possible…

It means accepting life as it is and accepting ourselves as we are.

It means not expecting the best to happen at every step, but instead accepting what happens at each step and making the best of it.

And it won’t always be easy, of course, but it’s worth remembering and practicing daily so we are prepared when a day comes that’s much harder than we expected.

Note: I highly recommend subscribing to Marc & Angel’s website.

Welcoming Autumn

Known as the UK’s best-selling living poet, Donna Ashworth first rose to prominence during the 2020 lockdown, when her poem “History Will Remember When the World Stopped” went viral and helped raise funds for the NHS. In the years since, her work has continued to resonate, offering reflections on resilience, connection, and hope.

Here’s one of my favorites…perfect for the season:



How to Quit Complaining

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In a recent newsletter, Happiness Professor and New York Times bestselling author Arthur Brooks shared the following advice:

Complaining is the act of expressing your dissatisfaction or annoyance. According to psychological theory, it is a fairly complex process that follows at least five steps, starting with a focus on your own desires. Next, you detect a discrepancy between what you want and what you are experiencing. This leads to negative feelings. Then, you judge the utility of complaining. If it seems worthwhile to you, you let rip; if it doesn’t, you keep the complaint to yourself.

The problem with all of this kvetching is that while it can feel therapeutic, it typically isn’t. Although complaining might offer temporary relief, it’s bad for your happiness in the long run. For example, in one 2009 study, Polish researchers measured people’s mood before and after they complained, and found that the complainers’ mood significantly deteriorated. Other scholars have shown that people who share negative emotions on social media—a very prevalent type of complaining today—experience lower levels of well-being.

Much more likely is that it will be in your interest, if you have a complaining habit, to break it. The people you care about will be happier too. Here are four research-based ways to quit complaining.

Judge less, observe more. Complaining is a fundamentally egotistical act—subjecting something about the world to your judgment. Tomorrow, try to reframe what were today’s minor irritations as simple events. For example, instead of grumbling about someone who cuts you off in traffic, simply observe that the person is obviously in a hurry.

Consider the underlying problem. If you have a habit of complaining, you could find it worthwhile to dig into why you’re so often going over your dissatisfaction threshold. For my own part, I’ve noticed that when something big is disturbing me, I also get impatient about all the little things I don’t like. Perhaps if you deal with what is really bothering you, you’ll find that the weather and politics aren’t really worth complaining about.

Avoid the grumblers. One reason you complain a lot might be that you keep negative company, online or in person. Curate your personal life to the extent that you can, and turn off the complaint machines in your media. Remember, your misery is their fuel.

Be a Stoic. The Stoics, such as Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, managed their feelings about life’s trials through reason. So when you are about to complain, subject your complaint to the Stoic test: Can you do something about the situation? If not, then complaining won’t help. If you can, then get on with life.

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The Whys We Need to Ask

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In a recent post on the Writer Unboxed blog, author Kathleen McCleary shared the importance of the one-word question “Why?”

Years ago, in my other life as a journalist, I interviewed Michael Jordan for a cover story for the magazine I worked for at the time. At the peak of his fame, shortly after his father was murdered, Jordan had quit basketball to try playing baseball. When I interviewed him, he had just made the sudden and surprising decision to return to basketball.

I had 30 minutes to interview Jordan and I was nervous and he was polite but not too excited or exciting. Desperate for something different from him, I said, “I read that Ghost is your favorite movie. Why?”

Suddenly, he came to life. He sat up and leaned forward, and really looked at me. “Because I’ve always believed that after we die, we come back to watch over and protect the people we love,” he said. “And since my father died, I’ve felt him watching over me. And the whole reason I decided to leave baseball and come back to basketball is because that’s what my father is telling me to do. Right now.”

It was an incredible moment, the story made news, my editor was happy, and I understood on a gut level the huge importance of the one-word question “Why?”

And as I’m embarking on writing my fifth novel, I remind myself every day that I need to keep asking “WHY?” You know the important basic questions about story: What does my character want? What’s my character’s flaw? How does this flaw affect my character’s life and world? What does my character need? We all have to do that work. But for me, “Why?” is the key.

I got the idea for this new novel, my fifth, almost a year ago. It was an interesting idea with a hint of magical realism and I felt intrigued but I wasn’t inspired to actually start jotting down ideas or scenes. Then recently, while hiking in Ireland, I was thinking about why it would matter that this magical thing happened, and suddenly I had an answer and a reason for the book to exist. It changed everything for me. So, whether you’re just starting out or deep into your twenty-seventh book, here are some Whys to remember:

The obvious Whys. These are the questions about character, motivation, and plot that are crucial for our own understanding of our stories. Why is my character making this choice? Why can’t my character change? Why does my character want this thing that she wants so badly? Why can’t she get it? Why does it matter? You know these. Come back to them again and again. Sometimes the answers change as you get deeper into your story.

The Whys we need to ask our characters. These are questions that help you get to know your characters in the same way you get to know someone new you meet, or get to know a friend better. I teach English to immigrants and we often talk about how to have a good conversation, or how to keep a conversation going. And one of the keys to having a great conversation is being genuinely curious about the person you’re talking to. If they mention that they’re afraid of snakes, finding out why could be interesting. If they always wanted to be a doctor but became a carpenter instead, that’s a potentially fascinating why to unearth. Ask your character: “Why does that particular thing/event/person frighten you? Why do you love trees/knitting/movies so much? Why is your daughter named Jeannie?” It’s the stories behind the details that give a fictional world its realism and believability.

The Whys we need to ask ourselves. “Why does it matter to me to tell this story? Why do I need to tell it now?” Knowing the reasons that we need to write and why it matters to do it at a certain point of time in our lives is important. I have written entire novels because I was compelled to write, because it was the only way I could process difficult events or feelings in my life. Writing them out in fiction was a way to get through. I’ve also written novels for the pure enjoyment or challenge of writing. Yet another important Why to ask ourselves is “Why I am struggling to write this story?” The answer to that speaks volumes, too, and may tell us it’s time to change direction, dig deeper, or, hard as it is, put a story aside.

Source: WriterUnboxed


Honoring Gloria Steinem

Gloria Steinem, one of the most prominent leaders of the modern women’s movement, died yesterday at the age of 92.

Born March 25, 1934, she worked as a journalist in the 1960s and gained national attention for her reporting on gender inequality. In 1972, she co-founded Ms. Magazine, which became an influential voice for feminism. She also helped establish the National Women’s Political Caucus, the Ms. Foundation for Women, and the Women’s Media Center. Throughout her career, her activism has focused on women’s rights, reproductive freedom, racial justice, violence against women, and political equality.

In recent years, she continued doing the two things she loved most: writing and being in community with others. She welcomed hundreds of guests into her living room for Talking Circles, a tradition she hoped would continue after her death.

Gloria wrote several books and received numerous honors, including the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2013 and the Princess of Asturias Award in 2021. Her memoir, An Unexpected Life, is scheduled for release later in September.

Here are my favorite quotations from Gloria Steinem:

“A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.”

“Women may be the one group that grows more radical with age.”

“A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”

“Power can be taken, but not given. The process of the taking is empowerment in itself.”

“Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.”

“Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities.”

“We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons…but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.”

“Change, even if we don’t like it, is the only evidence of life.”

“Feminism is fundamentally about self-respect and respect for others.”

“Trust that little voice in your head that says ‘Wouldn’t it be interesting if…?’ And then do it.”

The Heart of a Finisher

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking reflection from international speaker and bestselling author Joyce Meyer:

It is important for everyone to have the heart of a finisher, but I believe it is especially important for God’s children. After all, we represent Him, and He always finishes what He starts.

Is there anything in your life that you are tempted to give up on? If there is, I am asking you to reconsider. In your quiet time with God, pray and ask if He wants you to give up, and unless you are sure that He does, I recommend that you press on.

The only reason we should ever give up is if we realize somewhere along the way that we are not doing what God wants us to do. Don’t let the fear of circumstances or the weariness of passing time cause you to give up. You might be tired of waiting, but pressing forward is much better than going back.

Source: Quiet Times with God by Joyce Meyer

Choose to be a Work In Progress

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:

I don’t entirely approve of some of the things I’ve done in my life, but I am who I am. And I would not be me if I hadn’t learned along the way. The same is true for you. We are all works in progress! So don’t be ashamed of who you had to be to get to where you are today. Forgive yourself for those times when you lacked clarity, for those foolish decisions you made that caused needless stress. Forgive yourself for being human, young, and reckless. Your journey has many vital lessons. What matters most now is your willingness to grow from them.

And isn’t it wild how we often outgrow what we once thought we couldn’t live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn’t even know we wanted? Life keeps leading us down worthwhile paths we would never travel if it were up to us. Don’t be afraid. Have faith — trust the journey. Continue to be a work in progress, and celebrate the fact that you are!

The trick I have found is to embrace life today. Be right where you are. That’s where your power is. There’s a time and place for everything, and every step is necessary. Just keep doing your best, and don’t force what’s not yet supposed to fit into your life. When it’s meant to be, it will be. You’ve come a long way already, and you’re still learning and growing.

Note: I highly recommend subscribing to Marc & Angel’s website.

Honoring Dolly Parton

Dolly Parton died earlier today at age 80.

Born in 1946 in rural Tennessee, she was one of twelve children raised in a poor but close-knit family. From an early age, music offered her a way to express herself and a glimpse of a life beyond the hills of home. After graduating from high school, she moved to Nashville to pursue songwriting and performing, determined to build a life on her own terms.

Her breakthrough came in 1970 with the release of Joshua, and she went on to become one of country music’s most successful and influential artists. Yet her career was never confined to music. She expanded into film and television, earning memorable roles in 9 to 5, The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas, and Steel Magnolias.

Dolly is also celebrated for her philanthropy. Through the Dollywood Foundation, she created the Imagination Library, which provides free books to children and reflects her enduring belief in the power of education and opportunity.

Her philosophy is simple but profound: Be yourself, work hard, stay kind, laugh at yourself—and if the road isn’t working, pave a new one.

Here are my favorite quotations from Dolly Parton:

“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”

“If you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”

“It’s hard to be a diamond in a rhinestone world.”

“You’ll never do a whole lot unless you’re brave enough to try.”

“If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one.”

“Don’t get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”

“Storms make trees take deeper roots.”

“We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.”

“I’ll never harden my heart, but I’ve toughened the muscles around it.”

“You gotta keep trying to find your niche … or to make one of your own.”

My favorite song:


Now You Do

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking poem from Donna Ashworth:

Now You Do

You don’t have to defend the old you
you didn’t know then
now you do
you did what you could
with what you had
at the time

and as with all things in life
you evolved
you’ve grown

if you find yourself
trying in vain to defend the old you
to argue on her behalf
please stop
you don’t have to do that

she was someone
you parted ways with
gracefully
but after much suffering

if anyone in your life
cannot do the same
that’s their issue

it’s their job to catch up
not your job to go back

you don’t have to defend the old you
you didn’t know then
now you do.