Oprah and Deepak Chopra

Yesterday on Super Soul Sunday, Oprah went soul to soul with one of the greatest thought leaders of our time: Deepak Chopra. Together, they addressed some of life’s biggest questions and provided us with excellent advice on how to improve the quality of our lives.

A prolific writer, Deepak has penned nineteen best sellers and sold over twenty million books worldwide. It was interesting to learn that he wrote The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success on a plane ride from Singapore to Melbourne. He commented that readers struggle most with the Law of Least Effort. They have difficulty realizing that when they are rested and full of love and compassion, things will synchronistically fall in place.

Deepak’s greatest desire is to see a peaceful, just, sustainable and happier world—something that can only be accomplished if there is more love and compassion. But he is optimistic and believes that we are seeing acceleration in that direction.

When speaking with children, he encourages them to look in the mirror and repeat the following short, but powerful, statements: I am beneath no one. I am fearless. I am immune to criticism. He encourages all parents to follow that example and help build up their children’s self esteem.

I was most impressed by his comment—“I never react anymore.” While he did not handle criticism very well in his younger years, he is now able to watch himself and not get angry. In fact, he has not argued with any member of his family during the last thirty years. A glowing testimonial to forty years of daily meditation!

He hopes his legacy will be that of “a passing breeze, a pattern of behavior in the universe that came and is now gone but the fragrance lingers.”

So many wonderful quotations…

When you recognize the impermanence of your body, you enter the present moment.

You can change your biological age if you change your perception.

People don’t grow old. When they stop growing, they become old.

The best way to prepare for the future is to be totally present now.

Now is the moment that never ends.

Life is a field of infinite possibilities and an opportunity to evolve in the direction of truth, goodness, beauty and harmony.

My greatest teacher is my own inner silence.

God is the evolutionary impulse of the universe.

We are the consciousness that makes the universe manifest.

Affirmation: Everyday and in every way, I am increasing my mental and physical capacity.

Secret to a happy life: Recognize that no matter what the situation, there is a creative opportunity in it.

Starting November 5, Deepak Chopra will offer a 21-day meditation challenge. It is free and open to everyone–worldwide.

Oprah and DeVon Franklin

On yesterday’s Super Soul Sunday, Hollywood film executive and spiritual teacher DeVon Franklin sat down with Oprah to share his thoughts on achieving success without compromising faith.

Throughout the hour-long program, DeVon referred to his recently released book, Produced by Faith, in which he compares our life journeys to the development and production of a movie. God is the director and each person is the star of his/her movie.

It is not surprising that DeVon feels most at home on the set and at the pulpit. A deeply religious and spiritual man, he considers prayer to be therapeutic and welcomes the opportunity to express himself and listen carefully to God’s answers.

What does he know for sure…God is real and faith works.

Quotable Quotes…

Stay in your own movie.

If I embrace who I am, it will open doors not shut them.

If your faith won’t fit in the door that opens, then do not walk through that door.

The door that God has opened for you will fit your faith.

Without great characters, you have no story.

Ego moves God out of the director’s chair.

What keeps us in the valley of depression is a response to one moment, one scene of the story.

We are only in control of two things: how we prepare for what might happen and how we respond to what just happened.

Fun Friday

Nico–photographed by Christina Guidoccio

Five things writers  can learn from dogs…

Be tenacious and curious about everything.

Abandon yourself to joy on occasion.

At all times, follow what you love.

Have a steadfast and loyal heart.

Work hard and sleep well.

Source: A Year of Writing Dangerously: 365 Days of Inspiration and Encouragement by Barbara Abercrombie

Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant–Part II

In yesterday’s Super Soul Sunday, Iyanla Vanzant shared the most profound moments of her spiritual journey. We hear about her suicide attempt  at age 21 and the devastating loss of her daughter, Gemmia. While Iyanla may have crashed down, she didn’t stumble. Instead, she discovered that the quicker she got “It aint’ about me,” the less she suffered.

Iyanla’s daily spiritual practice involves reading her bible and listening to music. She stressed the fact that she does not pray to an external God. To Iyanla, prayer is intimate heartfelt conversation with BOO, her internal God. She shared three personal prayers that cover every circumstance:

Help!

Help me now!

Thank you.

Interesting facts about Iyanla…

1. She went to law school to train her mind. While there, she learned how to think and build an argument.

2. The name Iyanla means mother. It was given to her by her godfather.

3. She is most at home and at peace when she is braless in bed watching reruns of Law and Order.

What does she know for sure…God loves me and I didn’t do anything wrong.

Eden Mills Writers’ Festival

                                                                                                    

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This day is blessed.

The angels are looking down.

                              Lillian Nattel

We all nodded in agreement as best-selling author Lillian Nattel praised this magical community event that occurs once a year on the banks of the Eramosa River in the tiny village of Eden Mills.

The weather co-operated and added to our enjoyment as we wandered around the village, eating and drinking, stopping to browse through books and sitting in on readings at the various venues—the Mill, the Cottage, the Sculpture Garden, Common and the Chapel.

Inspired by such internationally acclaimed writers as Michelle Landsberg, Linden MacIntyre, Richard Gwyn, Lillian Nattel and Ami McKay, I also welcomed the opportunity to sit in on up-and-coming writers. While at the chapel, I listened to five writers from the MFA program at the University of Guelph and the winners of this year’s writing contest. Patricia Anderson, friend and fellow member of Guelph Writers Ink, read her award-winning story, Growing Pains.

Poet at Age 92

I enjoy reading about other people’s second acts, especially those of wordsmiths. I file away these stories and retell them whenever friends and  acquaintances start moaning about being too old to write a book, start an exercise regimen, apply for a new job or get out of their comfort zones.

The story of best-selling Japanese poet Toyo Shibata is one of my favorites.

At age 92, Shibata’s back gave out and she was forced to give up classical Japanese dance. Her son suggested she try another art form, one that would be easier on the back. So, Shibata decided to spend her evenings writing poetry. Encouraged by the publication of her first poem in a newspaper, she continued writing until she had enough poems to fill a book.

At age 99, Shibata self-published an anthology entitled Kujikenaide which can be translated into Don’t Be Too Frustrated, a mantra for the feisty nonagenarian. Since its publication in 2009, the book has sold over 1.5 million copies. An extraordinary achievement in a country where poetry is a tough sell and a book is considered a success if it sells 10,000 copies.

Unfortunately, her poems haven’t yet been translated. According to the reviewers, she addresses simple themes and writes mainly about her family and her caregivers. In one poem, however, she wrote a steamy passage about her doctor.

She is working on a second book which she plans to release on her 100th birthday.

Inspiring quotes from Toyo Shibata…

Although 98, I still fall in love. I do have dreams; one like riding on a cloud.

Everyone is equally free to dream.

A flower bloomed from a century-old tree, and it’s all because of your support. Now I have a souvenir to bring to the after-world and boast about it to my husband and my mother out there.

Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant

Rhonda Harris aka Iyanla Vanzant was born in poverty, endured a childhood filled with fear, married at age fourteen and had three children by the age of twenty-one. She lived off welfare until she turned her life around by putting herself through college and law school. Later, she became an ordained minister, launched a self-help empire and sold more than eight million books.

An amazing story of transformation that merits more than one appearance on Super Soul Sunday.

Yesterday, Iyanla focused on her early years and the hard lessons she has learned along the way. She acknowledges her earlier self—Rhonda—and credits that wounded and sorrowful soul with helping her survive poverty, abuse and rape. When “Rhonda” no longer fit who she had become, Iyanla renamed herself as a symbol of starting anew.

Facing the truth is painful but necessary. Throughout her life, Iyanla dealt with many relationship and money issues that forced her to endure the labor pains of birthing that truth. It took her forty years to realize she was still seeking her father’s approval. When her daughter commented on their financial problems, Iyanla admitted that she had a “welfare mentality with a million dollar life.”

As she opened up, Iyanla Vanzant demonstrated how she found peace among the broken pieces of her life.

So many wonderful quotes…

When you find yourself in a new situation, everything that requires healing is going to rush to the surface. Pause and take a breath.

If you are not living the life that’s in alignment with who you are today, you are living the generational pathology of who you used to be.

Look at your patterns. Pause and pay attention.

When your relationship with God is hit or miss, so is your life.

Iyanla’s definition of God—All there is.

All things are lessons that God will have you learn. (Course in Miracles)

I must have decided wrongly, because I’m not at peace. (Course in Miracles)

You can give but if it can’t be received, it’s like it was never given. (Oprah)

Looking forward to Part II next Sunday.

Meeting Your Rhinoceros

Each month, I look forward to reading Martha Beck’s column in Oprah Magazine. The Harvard-educated psychologist uses her extraordinary storytelling ability to help her readers create more satisfying and meaningful life experiences.

In Finding Your Way in a Wild New World, Beck urges us to embrace our wildness and carve out different lives for ourselves as she addresses two basic questions: “How the hell did I get here?” and “What the hell should I do now?”

Having read her previous bestsellers—Finding Your Own North Star, Steering by Starlight, Expecting Adam—I knew enough not to expect another pop cultural self-help book. And I wasn’t disappointed. This book has all the ingredients necessary to create positive change in your life, whether you are new to the spiritual path or a seasoned traveler.

Beck walks the walk and she crosses an ocean to do so. The book is based on her experiences in Londolozi, a game preserve in South Africa. Throughout the book, she talks about her encounters with the animals and the lessons she learned along the way.

Her excellent command of the language is evident in the following descriptions: “The rhino, half hidden behind a thorn bush, cocks her primordial-looking head—which is roughly the size of a grocery cart—and swivels her satellite-dish ears toward us” and “Because cheetah’s tongues are like industrial-grade sandpaper, it’s physically excruciating; with every kiss, the cheetah seems to be removing significant layers of skin.”

She does not hesitate to point out her own personal foibles, reflecting a self deprecating sense of humour. After providing us with the healthy ingredients for a green “gorilla” smoothie, she adds the following instructions: “Throw all this stuff in a blender, where it will form a lovely still life of deeply saturated color. Then push the button and wait until the whole thing looks as if you already ate it, then threw up. Really, it might not be pretty, but your body will love it.”

This book is intended for wayfinders, “people who feel an internal call to heal any authentic part of the world, beginning with their own true nature.” Throughout the book, Beck talks about gathering a team of these people. She demonstrates four simple tools for transformation—wordlessness, oneness, imagination, creation—and includes step-by-step instructions and guided reflections designed to get us out of our mental ruts.

As Martha Beck Beck says, “If you’re a born mender, you’ll pursue this in spite of yourself. And as you find it, you’ll automatically become the change you wish to see in the world, healing the true nature of the people and things around you.”

It’s the kind of book you don’t read in one sitting. Instead, you reflect on each chapter and then at the end, go back and reread it, gaining new insights along the way.

Oprah and Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee

At age sixteen, author and Sufi mystic Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee experienced a shift in consciousness when he read the following Zen koan: The wild geese do not intend to cast their reflection, and the water has no mind to retain  their image.

Afterward, a door opened up within him and suddenly there was joy.

On yesterday’s Super Soul Sunday telecast, he spoke with Oprah about Sufism and the universal longing for love. It was interesting to learn that Sufism is inclusive of all religions and helps bridge the gap between the East and West.

I was impressed by this articulate mystic who is concerned with the state of our world. He believes that we are in a state of crisis, much deeper than Wall Street. He spoke at length about the three journeys: from God, to God and in God. Unfortunately, too many people ignore their divine natures and focus primarily on material accumulation. To get on the journey to God, something, usually tragedy, must wake them up. While describing the journey in God, he used Rumi’s words: a return to the root of the root of your own being.

When Oprah mentioned that many of her guests and viewers just want to be happy, Vaughan-Lee replied, “I think they want to be loved.”

Quotable Quotes…

If you go into the core of your being, there is only love or the longing for love.

In order to know God, the ego must be crucified.

For the Sufi, the heart has to break open. Most people are so closed, so contracted; it’s all about “me.”

In God I move and breathe and have my being. (One of Oprah’s mantas)

We are a feather on the breath of God. Hildegard of Bingen