Wellness Show

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Show Planner Lee Pryke’s mission was to bring together the people she met on her journey of making healthy choices and to share that knowledge with the Guelph community. Her positive energy was evident everywhere as I wandered through the lobby, Main Ball Room and Speakers Area. I particularly enjoyed the sessions with Joanne Johnson and Sarah Schlote.

Joanne  is part of the well-known Body Break team (Hal and Joanne Johnson). Joanne discussed the importance of knowledge and information, focusing on the health supplements offered by True Star.

In her session, Sarah shared aspects of her own life journey with us. This articulate and engaging speaker suffered through childhood trauma and bullying which resulted in years where she wore a social mask and avoided stressful situations. She presented three keys for overcoming stress: mindfulness, grounding and containment and boundaries. She ended with a guided meditation.

The Art of Storytelling

For the most part, I enjoy listening to writers read from their novels. The book comes alive as its creator breathes life into each word and punctuation mark. But sometimes, the writer’s storytelling abilities fall short and I’m left to question why his or her speaking voice is so different.

There is a definite art to storytelling.

Recently, I participated in a workshop facilitated by Sya Van Geest of the Guelph Storytellers Guild. She displayed her well-honed communication skills as she interspersed her PowerPoint presentation with folk tales. It is easy to see why she is so well received by all her listeners.

At one point, she turned the tables on us and asked us to tell the stories behind our given names.

A few of her hints…

1. Get out of yourself when you tell a story. Realize that you are only the conduit of the story.

2. Stories are meant for the ear. Do not memorize the story before telling it.

3. You can find your stories in different places. Be alert to what you see, hear and read.

4. Throw your voice.

5. Practice your story by living and feeling it. Have it in your head and go over it many times…before falling asleep, while doing chores, while driving.

6. When telling your story, build on the positive energy of attentive audience members. Ignore the one or two audience members who may be sleeping or not paying attention.

7. Trust your instincts. There is no one way to develop a personal style.

One of her suggested resources: New Tales for Old by Gail deVos and Anna Altman.

Book Club Night

Last evening, nine of us gathered to discuss Beth Powning’s novel, The Sea Captain’s Wife. While some of the ladies found parts of the book too slow and drawn out, I was captivated by this tale of adventure set in the 1860s.  While reading the book, I thought of the Hero’s Journey and the many trials of Job.

Azuba, the daughter of a shipwright in New Brunswick, has grown up around the water and dreams of sailing around the world with her husband. But when she marries veteran captain Nathaniel Bradstock, he insists that she stay on land and avoid the perils of sea voyages. Bound by the social mores of the era, Azuba honours her husband’s wishes and resigns herself to having an absentee husband. After a miscarriage, she befriends the local minister and spends an innocent evening with him. When Nathaniel returns, he hears the gossip and informs his wife that he has changed his mind. Azauba and their daughter, Carrie, must accompany him on the next sea voyage around the world.

In the journey that follows, the Bradstock family encounters many challenges, among them sea storms, threats of mutiny, dwindling supplies,  and a pirate attack. Powning’s research skills are impeccable. We can easily imagine the dangerous beauty of Cape Horn, the stifling heat of the tropics and the grandeur of European and American port cities during the 19th century.

Powning also addresses many of the themes we still struggle with today:  What are we willing to sacrifice for our desires? What happens when our dreams are realized, but not to our specifications?

In an interview, Powning admitted to having insight into Azuba’s life. In 1972, she and her husband bought a 1870’s farm in New Brunswick, where they established a pottery business. The couple had one telephone on a twelve-party line, a wringer washer, a wood cook stove and a clothes line.They cut their own firewood and hauled it down from the forest. She provides the following vivid description: “Going to the outhouse, fireflies made an erratic blinking in the meadows. Nights, there was silence, save for the rushing of rivers and the call of owls.”

Historical fiction at its best–I highly recommend this novel written by an excellent Canadian author.

Chopra/Oprah Tour–A Class Act

Last night, Oprah welcomed spiritual master Deepak Chopra to her life class at Radio City Music Hall in New York. A global leader in the field of mind-body medicine, Deepak Chopra is a prolific author of 65 books, including 19 New York Times bestsellers.

Throughout the two-hour program, Oprah and Deepak Chopra discussed and  answered questions about spirituality. I particularly liked the segment where he shared his STOP formula for controlling unwanted thoughts.

S=Stop

T=Take three deep breaths

O=Observe what is happening in your body

P=Proceed with kindness and compassion

Quotable Quotes…

5. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

4.  The highest form of intelligence is being able to observe yourself without judgment.

3.  You can believe the diagnosis, but never believe the prognosis.

2.  I use memories, but I do not allow memories to use me.

1.  The past is gone. The future is not here. Now I am free of both. Choose joy.

What is your favourite quote?

Inspired by the JAWS story

It is easy to get discouraged when working on any long-term project. While there are days when everything flows smoothly, the occasional setback can derail my well-laid plans and prevent me from moving forward.

Whenever I hit a slump, I recall the story behind the making of JAWS.

In 1973, the late producer David Brown, came across Peter Benchley’s novel Jaws and spent an entire evening reading the book. He and fellow producer Richard D. Zanuck agreed that it was “the most exciting thing that they had ever read” and purchased the movie rights. Later, Brown said that if he had read the book twice, he would never have made the film.

They reluctantly hired a young, unknown director named Steven Spielberg and set a shoestring budget of $3.5 million and a shooting schedule of 55 days. The budget escalated to $12 million and it took 155 days to film the movie. The 26-foot mechanical shark was never tested for use and sunk to the bottom of the harbour on its first day in the waters off Martha’s Vineyard.

This setback was actually a blessing in disguise. When Spielberg realized he wouldn’t have too much working footage of the shark, he used shots, music and dialogue to create an eerie and tense vibe. The music score by John Williams has become one of the most recognizable pieces of music ever created for a film. Whenever I watch the movie, I am always aware of the shark’s presence.

In addition to the technical problems, Spielberg had to deal with bickering between actors Robert Shaw and Richard Dreyfuss. Author Peter Benchley disapproved of the film’s climax and was booted off the set.

The rest is movie box office history: JAWS became a big summer blockbuster and the first film to break $100 million in box-office totals.

Memorable quote from David Brown: Under no circumstances face the facts.

Sundays for Writers

This afternoon, I joined several other members of Guelph Write Now for our monthly meeting at Lucie’s Restaurant in south Guelph. I look forward to meeting with other writers and talking about our respective writing journeys.

Lots of discussion and advice floated around the table as we discussed the pros and cons of social media, ebook covers, our WIPs and Fifty Shades of Grey. Organizer Cindy Carroll provided us with three prompts and we wrote spontaneously. Afterward, we shared out stories and commented on the different interpretations of the prompts.

We also enjoyed the delicious coffee, tea and desserts.

Book Review: The Prosperous Heart

The author of more than thirty books—fiction and nonfiction—Julia Cameron is best known for her international bestseller, The Artist’s Way, which has helped millions of people realize their creative dreams. While conducting lectures and facilitating workshops over a thirty-five year period, Cameron discovered that many of her students did not want to talk about money and felt they could handle anything but money. She decided to write The Prosperous Heart, a book that would give her students “the tools to address their money issues directly while maintaining spiritual balance and an active creative life.”

Fans of Cameron’s books will recognize two of the tools: Morning Pages (three hand-written stream-of-consciousness journal pages written each morning) and a twenty-minute daily walk. New tools include Counting, recording each penny earned and saved in a small journal; Abstinence, a complete abstaining from any further debt; and Time-Outs, two five-minute periods of sitting quietly to consciously count your blessings or simply rest.

Cameron provides short exercises to complete as we go through the 12-week program and at the end of each chapter (week), there is a check-in and a list of “prosperity points.” She advises us to “choose the exercises you are most attracted to and the ones you are most resistant to. Our resistance often points us toward ‘pay dirt.’”

While guiding us through the prosperity plan, Cameron encourages us to be open to the unexpected gifts and answers that may appear along the way. In describing her recent move from New York to Santa Fe, Cameron demonstrates what can happen when we step out of our comfort zones. She explains, “I often find when my students shake the apple tree, oranges fall. And oranges may have been just what they were looking for after all.”

She stresses the need to accept even the smallest steps as progress and makes comparisons to other 12-step programs. In the chapter on forgiveness, she advises us to let go of “feelings, beliefs, and circumstances that do not serve you” and “open the door to allow the Higher Power to co-pilot your life.” While she liberally uses the word God throughout the book, she encourages readers to make their own substitutions.

Unlike other financial gurus, Julia Cameron does not preach or scream her message as she addresses the practical side of the creative life. The tone is a much gentler one which recognizes the greyness that often surrounds money issues. When outlining the prosperity plan, she reminds us that we will “slip backward and revert to old spending habits.” But the important thing is not to be discouraged. She ends the book with the following message: “Living a prosperous life means living a day at a time. It means starting over each morning, forgiving ourselves and beginning anew when we make mistakes, picking ourselves up when we fall, keeping on track.”

End of an Awesome Era

Neil Pasricha has posted the last entry in  1000awesomethings.com

Since 2008, Neil has been writing about the small joys of his life. He started the blog as a way of cheering himself up during a dark period in his life. He was surprised when his daily ritual found unexpected success. Eleven months after his first entry, he won his first of three Webby awards and went on to secure lucrative book deals for three best-selling books: The Book of Awesome, The Book of Even More Awesome and The Book of Holiday Awesome.

In a recent interview, Pasricha said, “I found therapy and I found friendship by writing about simple pleasures every day.”

Some highlights…

#999   The last, crumby triangle in a bag of potato chips

#864   Mastering the art of the all-you-can-eat buffet

#567   Getting to the light at the end of the tunnel

#356   Wearing your boyfriend’s sweatshirt

#126   When someone brings you a coffee just the way you like it

#25     Kindergarten class photos

#2        Remembering how lucky we are how to have right now

#1       Anything you want it to be

Watch the Book of Awesome trailer.


Book Review: The Imposter Bride

It is a woman’s worst nightmare.

After she crosses two oceans, Lily Azerov learns that  her prospective husband no longer wants her. Fortunately, his brother steps in and offers to marry her instead.

But Lily, the imposter bride, has more pressing problems. Described as a “broken bird” by her mother-in-law, this fragile woman cannot adapt to her new life in post-WWII Montreal. She has stolen a dead woman’s identity and feels survivor’s guilt as she absorbs memories, dreams and fantasies that do not belong to her. After giving birth to a daughter, Lily leaves Montreal.

The book alternates between chapters told in third person and those narrated by Lily and her daughter, Ruth. As Ruth matures, she becomes more curious about the mysterious mother who left behind an uncut diamond and a Yiddish notebook.

The larger cast of characters includes other broken souls, among them Bella, who lost three children during the Russian Revolution, and Ida Pearl, a local jeweller who was abandoned by a philandering husband. Each of the characters claims to have some insight into why Lily really left.

Canadian novelist Nancy Richler has written a compelling story that will keep you reading well into the night.

Oprah in Toronto

With over 8500 people assembled at the Metro Toronto Centre,  Oprah achieved her dream of having the world’s largest classroom. Joining her were four Master Class life teachers–Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra and Bishop T.D. Jakes–her spiritual mod squad. The two-hour life class dealt with the power of forgiveness. Throughout the evening, Oprah and the mod squad stressed the fact that forgiveness can set us free.

So many wonderful insights…

Iyanla Vanzant

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.

Too many people are spiritually constipated and emotionally retarded. Forgiveness is a spiritual laxative.

Tony Robbins

Become aware of your love patterns.

Level 1–Baby or brat love

Level 2–Horse Trading (you give only to get)

Level 3–Real love

Level 4–Pure spirit love as demonstrated by Nelson Mandela and Dalai Lama

Deepak Chopra

Process your pain or it will surface as disease.

Holding onto resentment is like holding your breath–you suffocate.

What other people think about you is not your business. If you make it your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.

Bishop T.D. Jakes

Unforgiveness unchecked becomes a cancer in our soul.

Forgive so you can detach from the poison.

If you forget, you lose the wisdom from the experience.

When you taste one segment of your life in isolation, it is bitter. Combine all the segments and it will taste better.

Do not expect people to love on a gallon level if they are pint people.

Irrigate your life with gallon people.