Keep Dreaming But Take Action…

Welcome to my Second Acts Series!

Today, we have Marcy Field talking about dreams, transitions and ethical leadership.

Here’s Marcy!

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In the early 70s, my original venture at university was studying social work and theatre based on a desire and vision for community outreach and development. I didn’t complete my studies and instead went to work first for the federal government and then onto the nonprofit sector. Later, most of corporate career was in commercial real estate development. Then I was provided the opportunity to return to university. Parenting two teenagers and having just turned 40, I headed back to study Marketing and Communications. While there, I was introduced to Adult Learning and met Ann Perodeau, the woman who became my mentor. I believe, this was the first time in my life that someone saw and really encouraged me to pursue my talents and interests in a manner that was meaningful to me. The things that I was learning reignited a desire to see a stronger, more open leadership style rather than a controlling, bullying environment that often failed to recognize and develop much of the talent within its ranks. Ann challenged me to shift direction and aided in the transition by being a sounding board and providing introductions to others in her network.

All this took place at the right time as changes were occurring in the organizational structure of the corporation I was employed by. This led to the shifting of our department’s work to Toronto and provided me with a severance package making the final decision much easier. That was twelve years ago. I am grateful for the people I’ve met and the work experiences during this time, things that would never have occurred had I remained where I was. I’ve travelled extensively throughout rural Alberta and Saskatchewan, cementing my love and appreciation for country living, something this city girl never thought would happen. I also had the pleasure of working on an international project and started my career as a writer and columnist.

My passion for ethical leadership continues to grow and thanks to the evolution of social media, I’m finding and connecting with individuals who share a similar vision and commitment. It is exciting to not only watch this unfold but to be a part of it. My desire is to see more women moving in their strengths, sharing their insights and competencies, particularly in the field of politics. History confirms the difference this makes.

Change begins with a desire and conversations get it moving.

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That conversation may initially be internal, but receives affirmation and life when shared with our confidants enabling us to touch a larger community, as our thoughts become actions. A couple of years ago, I began asking a variety of people if they were living their childhood dreams. I wanted them to reflect on how much of their current career and/or personal life was what they had desired. The results of this non-scientific study were encouraging as the overwhelming majority, to varying degrees, was in fact living the dream. Age is no longer a deterrent. So if you can’t make waves, make ripples. They also create change.

Most of us are truly unaware of how much difference we make when we act on our beliefs. Doors open and dreams do become reality. Always be mindful of what is taking place in your life. Grab hold of opportunities. Make the most of each moment and every encounter. You never know where it will take you.

Where to find Marcy…

About: http://about.me/marcylfield

Website: http://www.mlleadership.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/marcylfield

Joanne here!

Thank you for sharing your inspiring journey and reminding us to grab hold of all opportunities. You are an excellent role model for women of all ages.

Career Incarnations and Beyond

Welcome to my Second Acts Series!

Today, we have Sarah Hegger talking about launching her second act at age 40.

Here’s Sarah!

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Briefly describe your first act.

I must have a real fondness for rejection, because I started out life as an actress. I did some stage work and a couple of really B grade TV bits and pieces (the names of which will go to the grave with me) before I drifted into doing market research and public relations to make ends meet. I then moved to London with the vague idea of trying to make it big on the West End stage. Instead, I had a seriously good time working in an advertising agency for a couple of years.

I came back home to South Africa and met my husband. We were engaged within weeks and married six months later. I have drifted after him as what is known as a trailing spouse for the last fourteen years. We have lived in over ten homes in that time. Other than a career in packing up and moving on, I was a stay at home mom until my 40th birthday.

What triggered the need for change?

Having dabbled here and there with various forms of writing in all my career incarnations, I was one of those people who always said I wanted to write a book. When my girls got that bit older, I found myself with more time on my hands. I also met my good friend, Kim, over lunch on my 40th birthday and found a mutual desire to write a romance novel. At that time, I was still mumbling what I wrote beneath my breath. People can get a peculiar look on their faces when you tell them you are a romance writer. Kim and I formed a pact to get on with it and actually get it done.

Since then, I have completed four manuscripts. One of which, should never see the light of day again, two contemporary romances and my debut published novel, a medieval romance, due for release in Spring 2014.

Where are you now?

I am a firm believer in taking the advice I was once given, which is to move on to the next project. I am wrestling my way through the England of King John as I tackle another medieval. Next, I have another contemporary begging to be let out of my brain.

Do you have advice for anyone planning to pursue a second act?

I don’t think it’s ever too late to do that thing you always wanted to do. Most of the most interesting people I know are second, third and even fourth acters. Our children do as we do and not as we say, and I realized that if I wanted my girls to be the sort of women who went after what they wanted and lived the sort of life that would fulfill them, the best thing I could do, is live that life for myself.

Any affirmations or quotations you wish to share?

My oldest daughter reminded me of this one.

“Do. Or do not. There is no try.” YODA, Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back

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Blurb from The Bride Gift (To be released in Spring 2014)

It’s 1153 in the period dubbed ‘The Anarchy’, King Stephen and Empress Maud are not the only ones embroiled in a fierce battle of the sexes.

Determined to control her own destiny, wilful Helena of Lystanwold has chosen just the husband to suit her purposes. But, when her banished guardian uncle attempts to secure her future and climbs through her bedroom window with a new husband by a proxy marriage, she understandably balks. Notorious warrior Guy of Helston is everything Helena swore she would never marry; a man who lives by the sword, like the man who murdered her sister.

This marriage finally brings Guy close to his lifetime dream of gaining lands and a title. He is not about to let his feisty bride stand in his way. A master strategist, Guy sets out to woo and conquer his lady.

Against a backdrop of vengeance, war and betrayal, Guy and Helena must learn to forge a united front or risk losing everything.

Where to find Sarah…

Website: http://sarah-hegger.squarespace.com

Blog: http://sarahhegger.wordpress.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahheggerauthor?ref=hl

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SarahHegger

Joanne here!

Thank you for sharing your inspiring journey, Sarah. The Bride Gift sounds absolutely delicious. I’m putting it on my 2014 TBR list.

Second Chances

Welcome to my Second Acts Series!

Today, we have Becky Lower talking about “Do Overs” and her latest book, Blame It on the Brontes.

Here’s Becky!

beckylowerWhen you were a kid and something didn’t go as planned, wasn’t it great to be able to yell “Do Over” and fix whatever the problem had been? If only the big flubs in life were so simple to fix.

That’s what second chance romances are all about. The heroes and heroines are usually a bit older than standard fare romances. This isn’t their first rodeo, and they have lived long enough to have some flubs and skeletons in their closets. If you made the wrong choice with a lover from long ago and have always regretted it, or if someone in your past did you wrong and put you off from trying a new relationship, second chance romances are tailor-made for you.

In my book, Blame It On The Brontes, there’s a lot of trouble in the Bronson household, and it’s not just between the women and their men. It’s also a tale about three sisters, whose childish behavior during a family crisis twenty years prior had serious ramifications on where their lives are today. Their mother, in her infinite wisdom, crafted her will so the sisters would have to confront their self-imposed demons in order to gain control of the family fortune. They have to come back to their childhood home and live together for one year.

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The story is a three-act structure, with each sister getting her moment to shine. Charlotte and her long-time love, Gray, haven’t been able to mend the rift that happened long ago, when, in a moment of desperation after her father’s funeral, she called off her engagement to Gray unless he quit being a fisherman, since the sea had taken her father. Charlotte thinks Gray took the opportunity to sleep with Annie, her younger and vivacious sister. Annie has been encouraging that thinking for years.

Emily’s husband was killed while serving on the USS Cole. Her next relationship ended in failure, after she invested five years with the man. So, she’s come home to lick her wounds and act as referee between her sisters. What she doesn’t count on is her childhood friend being all grown up and studly.

Annie is a twice-married stage actress who never quite made it out of the chorus line. She knows Charlotte was responsible for getting rid of the love of Annie’s young life, and she has tormented Charlotte for years, letting her think the worst of Gray. And of Annie. What Annie really wants is the love of her sisters, which she used to have when they were younger. And a good man to be beside her.

So, if you’re in the mood for second chance romances, grab a book in this sub-genre and settle in for a good read. You might just be inspired to yell “Do Over.”

Bio

As is the case with most writers, Becky Lower began to write stories as soon as she could figure out how to put pen to paper. Her career got off to a rocky start, though, because she was a defiant teenager. A Journalism teacher in high school told her she should become a writer, so she went in a totally opposite direction, majoring in International Studies for her first two years of college, nearly flunking out in the process. It wasn’t until she switched over to an English/Journalism major that her grades improved. So, she owes a much-belated thank you to Mr. Tanner, who actually did know what he was talking about.

Today, Becky lives in an eclectic college town in Ohio with her puppy-mill rescue dog, Mary. She uses her love of history as an excuse to roam around old graveyards and Civil War battlefields, and to spend large chunks of time watching old westerns when she’s not writing romances.

Where to find Becky…

Website: http://www.beckylowerauthor.com

Amazon: http://is.gd/qhIkUY

Twitter: https://twitter.com/BeckyLower1

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckylowerauthor

Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/authorbeckyl

Joanne here!

I love reinvention stories and the Brontes. This book is at the top of my TBR list. Thanks for dropping by, Becky.

Trailer Tuesday–Patti Tingen

Welcome to the Trailer Tuesday Series!

Today, I am pleased to feature an uplifting book trailer from Patti Tingen.

In A God for All Seasons, Patti provides us with hope and encouragement–month by month, season by season–as she reflects on her own spiritual journey.

Enjoy!

Where to find Patti…

Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Patti-Tingen/e/B009N5Z3UU

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PattiTingenAuthor

Stop Overthinking Everything!

breast cancerI’ll organize my cancer.

That’s the first thought that came to mind when Dr. McGillivray started talking about my treatments. As she spoke, my well-developed left brain itemized all the tasks that had to be completed over the next ten months. And of course, everything had to be done perfectly and by me. That’s how I had survived during the first fifty years of my life. Or more precisely, the first forty-nine years, seven months and seven days.

Continue reading on Sandra Dawes’ blog.

A Theme Song for Cancer

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Searching for a bible reading was the farthest thing from my mind during that first month after receiving the diagnosis of inflammatory breast cancer. Between appointments and all sorts of tests—biopsy, bone density, ultrasounds—I had very little time to do much else. Once the chemo treatments started, I was barely able to focus on my dwindling list of daily tasks.

Continue reading at Jessica Jefferson’s blog.

My Yoga Trials

The blonde willow was out of her comfort zone.

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She sighed deeply and tossed her Farrah Fawcett curls as she removed a borrowed parka, three sizes too big for her perfectly toned body. She was not impressed by winter in March and seven less-than-enthusiastic students in Sudbury, Ontario. She spoke at length about her personal journey as a California yogini, and then demonstrated her pretzel-like ability to contort her body in a variety of poses.

Impressed and intimidated, we did not look forward to the short lesson that would follow. Continue reading at Spunky Seniors.

Oprah and Diana Nyad–Part I

oprahdianaYesterday on Super Soul Sunday, Oprah sat down with long distance swimmer Diana Nyad.

Having followed Diana’s amazing swim in late summer, I was looking forward to insights from this extraordinary woman who, according to Oprah, demonstrated “what a real warrior looks like.”

Born into a tumultuous home, Diana faced challenges at an early age. A temperamental father prone to outbursts and a cold and distant mother led her to find solace in the water, practicing up to six hours a day. The sexual abuse she endured from her coach rocked the cells of her very being and for the longest time, she believed that she had allowed the abuse to happen.

She swam competitively until age thirty and after burning out, decided to leave the loneliest sport in the world. She forged a career in sports broadcasting and lived a different dream. All the while, she kept hearing a little whisper about the failed swim from Florida to Cuba, “Gosh, it would have been magic.”

After her 82-year-old mother died in 2007, Diana began re-evaluating her life and asked the important questions: “Am I living the life that I can admire? “Am I going to leave this earth, maybe as you do, leaving it a place where it’s a little more than it was, and human rights have been fulfilled more?”

Since age 60, Diana attempted the Cuba/Florida swim five times. After four failures, she approached the fifth attempt brimming with confidence. She took every precaution to protect herself from the box jellyfish and completed the 110 mile swim in 58 hours.

Quotable quotes…

Will can push you beyond the impossible.

What the spirit can do is immeasurable.

Spirit is larger than the body.

When you achieve your goals in life, it’s not what that gets you, it’s who I am. (Henry David Thoreau paraphrased)

Diana’s Mantra…Find a way.

How to Celebrate Rejection…

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I’m always on the lookout for unique word combinations, but this one took me by surprise. I couldn’t imagine a more unlikely word pair than “celebrate rejection” and an even more unlikely source: an interview with Susan Sarandon.

How does one of Hollywood’s most talented leading ladies celebrate rejection? Whenever Ms. Sarandon didn’t get a role, she’d go out for dinner or buy herself an album. In leaner times, she treated herself to an avocado. But more importantly, she did not dwell on it. She had a knack for replacing the negative self-talk with positive and affirming statements such as, This means I’m now available for something else.

Continue reading at MindBodyGreen.

Redefining Success

Welcome to my Second Acts Series!

Today, we have Kathy Bryson talking about letting go of expectations and heading off the beaten path.

Here’s Kathy!

kathybrysonWhen Joanne asked me to write about my second act, I was intrigued. I’m currently reading Between Land and Sea and laughing in recognition. I think that’s the first thing you learn if you make a change at mid-life. A lot of us realize somewhere in our forties or fifties that we really want to be doing something else and, whether through circumstances or conscious decision, head off the beaten path. You’ll be in good company.

When I left corporate America for teaching, I met bicyclists who were training for races on weekends, artists who worked craft fairs around temp jobs, and poets who taught night school. There was an amazing wealth of people and interests that had nothing to do with ad copy! My particular skill set was welcomed, however. I got to know people by working on their web promotions and learned I as I transitioned into part-time jobs and, ultimately, writing my own stories.

My background is 20+ years of advertising and marketing. I worked for Fortune 1000 companies and managed major campaigns. And like many, I bottle-necked somewhere in middle management, where positions start to disappear and everyone fights for the same budget and recognition. In my last job, my boss literally could not shut up from sheer stress. She talked non-stop from the moment she walked in the door until we finally escaped at the end of the day. It was infuriating, it was funny, and it was sad. I finally walked when she put me on notice, saying I couldn’t write headlines.

I had been working towards a change anyway. I’d gone back to school to get the credits I needed to teach and was moonlighting at my local community college. The timing wasn’t perfect. Since then, I’ve struggled with having hours cut and some of the weirdest state legislation regarding standardized testing you ever saw. And I don’t regret any of it. Instead of sitting in a cubicle waiting for retirement to enjoy my life, I’m sitting on a futon, drinking a second cup of coffee, and wondering how a toad managed to get in my front door peephole and how he’s going to get out. He’s a fat little guy.

The part that was hard was letting go of my expectations. I grew up in California during the first computer boom when everybody was going to be the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. I have no problem being an ‘entrepreneur,’ but it’s taken me awhile not to beat myself up because I wasn’t wildly successful. I don’t make big money, I don’t have guaranteed employment, I have a small house, and my car is fifteen years old. It took me a long time to realize that I was the only one making the comparison and to silly expectations. No one has a guaranteed income, there’s never enough money, and the house is just fine. I will probably replace the car since the door handles are falling off; my brother’s hunting a used one for me.

Ultimately, that was the best lesson learned out of this whole transition and my one suggestion. There’s no point in living a supposedly successful life if your reality is just miserable. Ultimately I can live without success because I am living. As my leprechaun pointed out, “It’s never just about the money!”

Blurb

feelingluckyMegan O’Malley pinched a cute guy and accidentally captured a leprechaun. Who’d have thought a perfectly normal guy – okay a bit short – would have such a bad attitude about giving away his money?! Megan may be millions richer, but she’s also got an angry leprechaun camped out on her sofa, trying to keep her from becoming the business mogul of her dreams!

Fergus O’Reilly cannot figure out what he did to upset the Queen of the Fairies. He was playing a wedding when a drunken lady pinched his ass and the Queen declared him caught. Now he’s broke, homeless, and hustling to stop the lovely lady with the wandering fingers from spending his money! This would be so much easier if she wasn’t cute, caring, and determined to help with his so-called money addiction!

Where to find Kathy…

Website:  kathybryson.wordpress.com
Twitter:  twitter.com/kathybryson2
Facebook:  facebook.com/kathybryson22
Google+: plus.google.com/118438646025517720984

Joanne here!

Thanks for sharing your inspiring journey, Kathy. Feeling Lucky sounds simply delightful. I’ve just picked up the e-book and look forward to reading it.