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Movie Review: Flight
As I watched veteran pilot Whip Whitaker (Denzel Washington) consume large quantities of alcohol and cocaine just before takeoff, I expected the worst. Surprisingly enough, Whitaker takes charge during a mechanical failure and executes a daring manoeuvre to slow down the plane’s descent and regain stability.
Afterward, Whitaker is proclaimed a hero until a post-crash blood test reveals a blood alcohol count of 0.24, well above the legal limit. As he fights to defend his actions and avoid a jail sentence, he must come to terms with a lifestyle of excess and denial.
Along the way, Whitaker connects with a romantic fellow addict (Kelly Reilly) and comic enabler (John Goodman) whenever he needs a quick fix. Union rep (Bruce Greenwood) and lawyer (Don Cheadle) round out the list of supporting actors who don’t get too much screen time in this intense character drama.
Denzel Washington’s portrayal of a deeply flawed character who flew too close to the sun (both literally and figuratively) is definitely worthy of an Oscar nomination.
A must-see movie…Just don’t watch it before boarding a plane.
Book Review: Thirst by Shree Ghatage
A wounded man has lost his memory and is being nursed by a kind Samaritan and his mentally ill daughter in North Wales. A connection to India is established and the amnesiac is given an alias, Hari.
When Hari regains his memory, he recalls the picture-perfect fairy tale life he left behind. Hari is really Baba Chafékar, the youngest son of a wealthy Hindu family, who grew up on a lush Indian estate complete with servants, horses, tennis and badminton courts, and a swimming pool. After reluctantly agreeing to an arranged marriage with the beautiful and recently orphaned Navasanti, Baba falls passionately in love with her.
Prior to the marriage, Baba had already made the decision to study law in England. A worthy goal for many Anglophiles in British India, but not a practical one in the middle of World War II. Motivated by a desire to punish his father for an unforgiveable act, Baba ignores his father’s plea, “Don’t let my life affect your decisions,” while Christopher, his British friend, writes and suggests that Baba postpone his educational plans. His wife’s uncle advises: “If London is bombed again, or threatened in any way, or for any reason things don’t work out, don’t hesitate—just return home.”
As the departure date nears, Baba is torn by his love for Vasanti and hopes she will ask him to reconsider. But the orphan has matured and accepted her new husband’s decision. Her parting words would ring in Baba’s ears long after he left India: “I began to say goodbye the very day you told me you were leaving. That was also the day I began awaiting your return.”
After a difficult sea voyage, Baba arrives alone in a Blitz-besieged London. His spirits sag as he experiences the cold dampness, bombed out buildings, rationing of food, and a disappointing encounter with Christopher. Alone and friendless, Baba cannot satisfy his thirst and hunger. A vegetarian, he rejects the usual British fare of liver sausages, beef and lamb and has unappetizing meals consisting of soup, scrawny potatoes and dirty brown bread. Desperate to flee the inhospitable city, he embarks on a hiking excursion to the Scottish Highlands where he has an unfortunate accident and is rescued by Mr. Owens and his daughter, Catherine.
As his circumstances continue to spiral downward, Baba gradually releases the stubborn pride that has alienated him from his father and acknowledges that he has participated in a transgression similar to the one he once found so unforgiveable. Throughout the novel, Baba refers to an inscription written by his mother in her prayer book: “It is no use asking why the small stream is not the might Ganges, or why the sparrow does not fan its feathers like the peacock, or why the coconut palm does not provide shade as does the banyan tree. Each is what it is and so it is with humankind: all His creation, we are what we are.” Baba comes to terms with the new normal, the turbulent normal that has replaced his once charmed life.
While we are aware of Baba’s changing circumstances in England, we know little about Vasanti’s life during those two years. Some chapters are written from Vasanti’s point of view, but the majority of the book focuses on Baba. In the last chapter, we get a glimpse of her life, but it is too rushed. I wanted to read more about the anger and frustration she experienced when there were no letters from Baba. How was she treated after Baba left? Did she continue to enjoy the same privileges as her sisters-in-law? Did she reconnect with her own relatives or continue to depend only on her in-laws?
The title is an unusual one and, at first, I wondered about its suitability for a historical novel based in India and England. But after reading the entire novel, I realize that Thirst is really about the different forms of desire—physical and emotional—that abide within all of us and the tragic consequences that can occur when that thirst is not properly quenched. While Baba enjoys many privileges in India, he has a prolonged desert experience during his two-year stay in war torn England.
Canadian writer Shree Ghatage has created a compelling novel with a conflicted character, set against the backdrop of World War II. Born in Mumbai, Ghatage grew up in a society characterized by the rhythms of British India. In writing this novel, she drew upon those early memories and her own experiences as a new immigrant in Canada.
The ending is unexpected and I wonder what Shree Ghatage has in store for us next. Thirst is the second in a trilogy of books that are loosely connected, but can easily stand alone.
Oprah and the Next Generation
On yesterday’s Super Soul Sunday, Oprah featured three up-and-coming thought leaders: Gabrielle Bernstein, Mastin Kipp and Marie Forleo.
I was impressed by their voices and platforms.
At age 32, Gabrielle is a life coach, speaker, and best-selling author of Spirit Junkie. She reaches thousands of listeners with her weekly show on Hay House Radio. Open and psychically aware as a child, Gabrielle had an existential crisis at age sixteen. After her mother taught her how to meditate, she experienced shifts in her being and felt as sense of peace. For ten years, she traveled in the wrong direction, but found her way back at age twenty-five.
Thirty-year-old Mastin is the founder of The Daily Love, a newsletter, website and twitter feed. Considered the fasted growing inspirational site on the web, his followers increased from 1000 to 10,000 in one week after Kim Kardashian tweeted one of his posts. In his mid twenties, he experienced a divine storm that served as a wake-up call.
As author, speaker, life coach and entrepreneur, thirty-six-year-old Marie has empowered thousands of women around the world. If Oprah, Tony Robbins, Jay-Z and Richard Branson had a child, Marie claims she would be that child.
Having unlocked the door to spirituality at such young ages, they are more than willing to share their experiences and help others awaken. When Oprah asked them to give three steps that anyone could follow, they came up with the following:
From Gabrielle…
1. Be willing to see things differently. When this happen, books start falling off the shelf and the right people appear in your life.
2. Pay attention to the opportunities, teachers and assignments that come your way.
3. Show up for these assignments
From Mastin…
1. Pay attention to the moments when you feel bliss.
2. Take action in that direction.
3. Trust as you step: something will arrive to support you.
From Marie…
1. Start with gratitude for everything you have in your life. When you are grateful, you change at the cellular level.
2. Be present to everything in your environment.
3. Bring passion to everything that you do.
Quotable Quotes…
Everyone has a God-size hole inside that they try to fill with food, shopping, drugs and other addictions. (Mastin Kipp)
Gratitude is a life saver whenever I feel frustrated or annoyed. (Marie Forleo)
We are not mystics in a monastery; we are mystics in the Western World. We must be able to monetize our gifts and skills. (Mastin Kipp)
We are compensated financially to the degree that we add value to the world. (Mastin Kipp)
Everyone is entitled to miracles. Miracles occur naturally and when they don’t, something has gone wrong. (Gabrielle Bernstein)
Inspired by Vicki Delany
Fifteen years ago, Vicki Delany started writing on Sunday afternoons. Living in Oakville, she was working full-time as a computer programmer and raising three daughters on her own. In spite of those challenges, she managed to write three suspense novels that were published to critical acclaim by Poisoned Pen Press of Scottsdale, Arizona.
In 2007, she took advantage of early retirement, sold her house and travelled around North America for an entire year. Afterward, she settled in rural Prince Edward County. Somehow, this prolific writer found the time to write twelve more books during the past five years. Her latest in the Klondike gold Rush Series, A Cold White Sun is forthcoming in 2013 and Gold Web in 2014.
Last evening, she led an informative and entertaining workshop on “Creating Realistic Characters” at the Waterloo Community Arts Centre.
Some of her tips…
A good mystery novel isn’t really about the crime. It should be chock full of psychology.
Separate yourself from the character. If she resembles you too much, you will find it difficult to make her face conflict.
Always ask…What is the worst thing that can happen to the protagonist?
Make the conflict personal for all your characters.
Sidekicks work well if they’re opposite to the protagonist.
When creating a villain/antagonist, ask…What sort of person believes the solution to their problems lies in killing someone?
The villain must be believable. Avoid falling into melodrama and stereotypes.
A good villain could be a flawed hero.
Don’t provide too many details about secondary characters who appear only once.
Every suspect must have a reason to lie. In order to know why they are lying and what they are lying about, you have to know a lot about their background and personality.
Send your completed manuscripts to publishers in Canada and the United States.
Book Review: Something Fierce by Carmen Aguirre
At last night’s book club, we had a lively discussion about Carmen Aguirre’s memoir, Something Fierce: Memoirs of a Revolutionary Daughter. While most of us were fascinated by the book and welcomed the opportunity to learn more about Chile, we had different opinions regarding the parenting of Carmen and her sister, Ale.
When Carmen was five years old, her family left Chile and began a new life in Vancouver. Six years later, her mother (Mami) decided to return and join the revolutionary movement against Pinochet’s dictatorship. Separated from her husband, Mami decided to take her two daughters with her.
What follows is Carmen’s coming of age story set against the frightening backdrop of Chile in the 1980s. Moving from city to city and country to country across South America, the children were left with a revolving door of babysitters as Mami and her partner, Bob, were on assignment. At one point in the story, Carmen is left alone too long and her money runs out. She hides in the apartment and morphs into an “agoraphobic 15-year-old skeleton with obsessive compulsive disorder.” Interestingly enough, Carmen thought life in the Resistance was normal and decided to become a revolutionary at age eighteen.
While some of the other club members made allowances for Mami, feeling that she authentically cared for her children and wanted them to experience her love and passion for Chile, I tend to agree with Ale’s comment: “Here’s a revolutionary thought: provide for your children and pay attention to them.”
In a CBC interview, Carmen spoke of her love and admiration for Mami. While Carmen would never put her own child through that experience, she did offer insight into her mother’s behavior. Born in an upper middle class home, Mami was not raised in the Resistance movement and had no clue about its effects on young children. Mami took to heart the words of her Resistance oath: “I am committed to giving my life to the cause. I will die for the cause if need be. From now on, my entire life is dedicated to the cause, which takes precedence over everything else.”
To date, very little has been written about the Chilean revolution in English literature. In writing Something Fierce, Carmen Aguirre has filled that void.
An excellent read that will evoke strong feelings.
Movie Review: Bernie
A crime treat.
I love oxymorons and this one aptly describes the film based on the story of convicted murderer Bernhardt “Bernie” Tiede. In 1996, 38-year-old Tiede shot 81-year-old Marge Nugent in the back three times as they were preparing to go out for lunch in Carthage, Texas.
Director and screenwriter Richard Linklater effortlessly spins this tale with an A-list cast of actors: Jack Black (Bernie), Shirley MacLaine (Marge Nugent), and Matthew McConaughey (District Attorney).
To add to the authenticity, actual townies speak up at regular intervals, giving us insight into a beloved assistant funeral director who befriended everyone, even the meanest and richest widow in town. Bernie could do no wrong and the townspeople turned a blind eye to his homosexuality, comparing him to Jesus and the twelve apostles. Didn’t those bachelors spend all their time together?
I was impressed by McConaughey’s performance as the relentless district attorney who ignored public sentiment and prosecuted Bernie.
I agree with one critic—“A pleasant little movie about a pleasant little murderer.”
Oprah and Eckhart Tolle
Yesterday, Oprah invited Eckhart Tolle to catch up, reflect and have a Super Soul Sunday conversation.
Throughout the telecast, Eckhart was in excellent form as he reviewed many of the topics in his books, The Power of Now and The New Earth. His main purpose in writing these books was to cause an awakening. If we don’t awaken, the problems caused by unawakened minds will increase and multiply.
He provided insightful and, sometimes humorous, answers to questions from Oprah and the viewers.
Q. How do you accept an unpleasant situation, if change is not possible?
A. You must accept a situation, even if change is not possible. The basis for effective enlightenment is to come in alignment with the present situation. When you accept the “isness” of life, greater intelligence arises. If you are angry and resist the unpleasant situation, you will remain stuck in it.
Q. How do you calm the voice in your head?
A. This question implies you know that your mind can’t stop. This is a good first step. Take the energy away from these thoughts, by asking yourself if you can feel the energy in your hands. Wait and you will feel it. Then move to your legs and other body parts. The inner body serves as a wonderful anchor for a sense of presence. This allows you to be distracted from your other thoughts.
Q. How does one clear the mind of bad memories?
A. Recognize that these memories are thoughts only in your head. They are not realities because they have already happened.
Q. How do you have fun?
A. I enjoy the present moment wherever I am and that’s fun for me.
Q. Are you happy?
A. I am in a state of peaceful aliveness.
Q. What do you believe in?
A. I believe in nothing in particular. LOL
Q. What are you grateful for?
A. I am grateful for always this moment…the now, no matter what form it takes.
Quotable Quotes…
You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness of thoughts disguised as a person.
Only spirit can recognize spirit. Guilt is a strong way for the ego to strengthen itself. You don’t have to believe every thought that comes into your head. The answer doesn’t always come in words. It often reveals itself as awareness. Stillness is the language that God speaks. Everything else is a bad translation.
If you identify with every thought in your head, you are not ready to hear the message.
The Joy of Yawning
According to the authors of the book, How God Changes Your Brain, yawning is one of the best-kept secrets in neuroscience. Dr. Andrew Newberg and therapist, Mark Robert Waldman believe that yawning should be integrated into all exercise and stress reduction programs.
Brain-scan studies have shown that yawning activates the precuneus, a tiny structure in the folds of the parietal lobe. The precuneus plays a central role in consciousness, self-reflection, and memory retrieval. This is one of the hardest hit areas by Alzheimer’s and other age-related diseases. Yawning also helps regulate the temperature and metabolism of your brain.
Evidence has shown that yawning helps individuals on military assignment perform their tasks with greater accuracy and ease. And Olympic athletes yawn before performing.
So, if you want to maintain a healthy brain, yawn…
When you wake up.
When you are confronting a difficult problem at work.
When you prepare to go to sleep.
Whenever you feel anger, anxiety, or stress.
Before giving an important talk.
Before you take a test.
While you meditate or pray.
You may have to fake six or seven yawns before a real one will emerge.
Movie Review: The Vow
Inspired by a true story, The Vow deals with an unusual life challenge.
Soul mates Paige (Rachel McAdams) and Leo (Channing Tatum) meet and fall in love in Chicago. After a short time together, they are involved in a near-fatal car accident. Leo recovers, but Paige remains in a coma. When she wakes up, she doesn’t remember anything about the accident or Leo.
Recalling only her parents and the life she led in their home, Paige gravitates toward those comfortable memories. Anxious to repair the rifts in their relationship (unknown to Paige), her parents (Sam Neill and Jessica Lange) encourage her to leave Leo.
Leo tries to make Paige fall in love with him again, but experiences increasing frustration with the situation. Paige is more comfortable with her old friends, past interests and ex-fiancé.
While at times predictable, the movie still held my interest as Leo doggedly searched for the key that would unlock Paige’s memory.
Light and entertaining!



