Welcome to my Second Acts Series!
Today, we have Patti Pokorchak sharing the adventures of her multi-layered life.
Patti at her IBM Graduation[/caption]Until I was 25, I was a pretty normal but driven kid. I skipped Grade 4, graduated with a computer-programming diploma from Ryerson Polytechnic Institute (college) and started working at IBM when I was still a teenager. Having vowed to never go to university, I returned to Ryerson to get not one but two degrees. My first never say never episode. Returned to IBM where I proceeded to make too much money at a young age.
What triggered the need for change?
The fear of regret was the impetus to leave everything behind including a promising career, boyfriend, and lifestyle that was supposedly everything most people would ever want. But, I was neither happy nor content. Having spent six weeks in Europe between my two degrees, I had vowed to return for a longer period of time. I had saved $20,000, so money was not the issue. It was not waiting around for someone else to come with me. Time to act or regret it for the rest of my life!
After my year of travel, I didn’t want to go home, back to all that was so familiar to me. I found a job and place to live in Munich where I had an established base of friends that I had made. My German was pretty basic, but my IBM training was a great foundation. My MBA was not recognized at that time in Germany but my tech background was attractive to startups. Being a foreign female in the technology world had its challenges AND perks. I rapidly made a name for myself, got headhunted for my second job by the American President because my English was so poor (yes, it is my mother tongue but I had so integrated myself into the German language, that my English was rusty).
After four years of working at three start-ups in Germany, it was time to leave, as I had had to change my personality in order to succeed in business in Germany. Life’s too short to do that for long. Plus I had a British boyfriend who lived in Geneva and I loved the British sense of humour as well as their more open and equitable business culture.
With a few months as a ‘homeless’ person (British car, German driver’s license and Canadian passport but officially did not live anywhere), by the time my UK work permit came through, I was ready to be laid off again. Technology – gotta love it. My second company proved to have more staying power and I finally returned to help start their Canadian operation, based in Ottawa.
After trying another large tech company for a horrible seven months, in 1992, I finally said enough and started the first of several businesses. I helped start and run a software company for 10 years before moving to the country and opening up a garden center and hobby farm (Act 4?).
Where are you now?
Back in Toronto, my hometown after my 30-year detour, I’m now the Small Biz Sales Coach — my final business (I swear it is!). After 35 years of selling and starting from being a geeky shy insecure introvert, I know what it’s like to be scared of selling and eventually learning how to have fun with it. I love helping others get over the fear of sales and asking for more money!
To have fun and make money is the only way to live!
Do you have advice for anyone planning to pursue a second act?
Imagine yourself at age 95 – what would you regret not having done? Those are your dreams of today.
Remember you’ll regret NOT having done something when you’re older and no longer able to do whatever that is.
Just do it!
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Patti, thank you for sharing your adventures. You are definitely a poster child for reinvention. I look forward to the release of The Reinvention Rebel.
Fab article. This is not the dress rehearsal, this is it. So go for it is my advice always. Love to see what dreams people achieve. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Thanks for reading and commenting Jane. You’re so right – this is your life – it’s not a dress rehearsal for what might have, could have or should be. Usually it takes some kind of trauma – death or divorce – to shake people up. But sometimes, it’s just reading something and taking action!
Indeed. Thanks for sharing with us all and I wish you much happiness and success in this ‘one-off’ world of ours Great to connect. 🙂
Patti, fascinating life story and yes I agree we must seek out the things we would regret not doing and this only becomes important as we age. When I was young I guess I found it hard just balancing life. A week out from fifty and I am closer to my dreams. Good luck with your books.
Wonderful life message, and a life well-lived, Patti. Thanks, Joanne, for another great post.
Thanks Gay, and I”m still living it! Still have this last act to make a big success of, so you haven’t hear the last of me yet! Thanks for reading and commenting all!
What a wonderful story. I love your reinventions.
Thanks Susan, wish I could say that I had planned them all but most just happened somehow. To me, those are the best ones.
Great advise. Loved your story.
Thanks! BTW: The ‘Rebel’ in Reinvention Rebel started from being kicked out of my private school 3x in Grade 10 – and I was seriously shy and quiet but found the trouble makers to make boarding school more exciting – all the juvies were my BFs!
What brilliant advice, looking back on your life as if you were 95. I think we should all try that, it might makes us pull our socks up and have more to be grateful for.
Thanks Rosie. The first time I said that to someone, it changed her life’s direction. It’s very powerful if you put yourself into that space. It helps clarify what’s a nice to do vs. must do for you. Happy dreaming!
That’s a handsome looking Llama you have there Patti. A hobby farm and garden centre – that sounds like a fun 4th act. I think we’d all benefit from reading The Reinvention Rebel. Good luck with sales.
We had the friendliest llamas in the world. One was nicknamed Romeo as he loved to schmooze with customers.
But careful what you wish for – I thought being outside all day would be a delightful change from my office job. We had no shade, so I was in the sun for up to 10 hours a day………. not fun. The sun is quite destructive in large doses. Wrinkles!