Transitions are a B*$^%!

Welcome to my Second Acts Series!

Today, we have Soul Mate author Roz Murphy giving us her take on transitions.

Here’s Roz!

roz murphy (3)First Act: Imagine it’s 1985, Manhattan, a rainy night in late September. All the sane people have fled midtown and huddle in their suburban homes. Hurricane Gloria howls around the creaking skyscraper where, on the eighteenth floor, you and a band of merry accountants (yes, accountants! and, yes, merry!) hustle to put the finishing touches on a report due in Congress tomorrow morning. Deadline pressures, tension, teamwork, worrisome groans from the surrounding building, occasional gusts of laughter…you don’t know it, but this is one of the peaks of your life and your career in corporate communications.

Second Act: Quiet and isolation. The frozen waters of a Finger Lake stretch in every direction outside your kitchen window. Siberia could not own more snow, or be more deserted.

So, how does someone move from Act I to Act 2? I wish I could say a little Tinker Belle sprinkles fairy dust and wafts you effortlessly from one place to another. But noooooo… that would be way too easy. My transitions usually involve pain and loss, heartbreak and fear, which is why I always say–”Transitions are a B#%@$!” As for deets, try divorce, job loss, deaths, multiple relocations, and The Great Recession.

For some reason, we don’t hear much about the destructive power of the Recession, but it was all too real, and it plays a major role in the opening of my debut novel, Bob at the Lake.

This novel explores, in a very light-hearted way, how we survive–and triumph–in the face of adversity. Survival tools include family, friends, writing, Fred Astaire movies, a moderate amount of loopiness, red geraniums, and chocolate. Lots of chocolate…

If I had to pick a couple of motivational quotes that I’ve held close to my heart over recent years, I’d select the following. I don’t know who said the first one, but it goes something like: “Every ending is a beginning. You just don’t realize it at the time.…” The second quote comes from Winston Churchill, who led England through the bloody and battered years of World War 2: “Never, never, never give up!”

I never will.

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Bob at the Lake narrates the humorous chronicle of a crabby ‘woman of a certain age’ who moves to the wintry shores of a New York lake—and gets a ghost. And not just any ghost, mind you. Bob’s a plump, middle-aged ghost from 1920s Manhattan who swans around in a silk smoking jacket and drinks far too many martinis. Stir the good-looking grape grower who lives up the hill into this mix and you get a pretty potent screwball cocktail!

Where to find Roz…

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Joanne here!

Thanks for sharing your transitions, Roz. The storyline for Bob at the Lake sounds intriguing…I’m putting it on my TBR list.


12 responses to “Transitions are a B*$^%!

  1. I enjoyed Bob at the Lake. Initially I wasn’t sure about the first person style and the seemingly ordinary events. However, the story touches anyone who has family, a life and hope for the future. In then end, I was shocked about what happened to Bob and I am waiting for the sequel.

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  3. Joanne, I just wanted to say thank you for hosting me on your great blog. I’ve enjoyed my visits, and the thoughtful observations from your readers. See you at Soul Mate! Best–Roz

    • Maggie, thanks so much for stopping by. Yes, I have to agree, the Bob Books are a LOT of fun–when I’m not tearing my hair out writing them, I’m loving every minute! Roz

  4. Roz, I enjoyed your piece on transitions and, having been involuntarily transitioned after 37 years working for one employer, totally agree with your summarization: transitions are a b*$^!. Still, life goes on and life is good.

    • You are absolutely right, Carol–life does go on and life is definitely good! (Although sometimes it can be VERY hard to remember that when you’re in the middle of one of those life-changing, $%#@* transitions…) Thanks so much for stopping by! Roz

  5. Mary, Queen of Scots’ motto was “In my ending is my beginning”–and that woman had more than her share of transitions! Greetings from the UK, Roz!

    • Wow, Gail, thanks so much for checking in from the UK! I studied in Oxford for a year and LOVED the whole experience. I really appreciate your sending me the source of this quote. I spent some time in Edinburgh so it makes sense I might have picked it up while there. I hope you get a chance to spend some time with Bob and me on our side of the pond! Best–Roz

  6. Joanne, thanks so much for hosting me today and your kind comments! I love your blog–so many thought provoking essays. I’ll check in throughout the day…

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