Book Review: Love is a Canoe

canoe2A self-help junkie, I have often wondered what it would be like to spend face-to-face time with one of my favorite gurus.

What insights could I gain from Louise Hay, Martha Beck or Wayne Dyer?

In Love is a Canoe, author Ben Schrank plays with this deep-seated desire among fans of self help/motivational literature.

Stella Petrovic, an ambitious young editor at a prestigious New York publishing house, spearheads a contest to celebrate the fiftieth anniversary of a best-selling relationship book—Love is a Canoe—written by Peter Herman. She invites married couples in trouble to share their stories. One lucky couple will spend a weekend with the author in a picturesque town in upstate New York.

Hundreds of letters arrive, most of them “hopeless and upsetting in shocking circumstances.” While reading about these unfixable marriages, Stella frets about finding suitable candidates and worries that some of that negativity may rub off on her.

Emily Babson’s letter makes the cut.

Happily married for three years to Eli Corelli, she has recently discovered his affair with an employee at his bicycle company. A long-time fan of Love is a Canoe, she admits to reading and rereading the book several times while growing up in a household with fighting parents who eventually divorced. Still devoted to the success of her marriage, she hopes that her weekend with Peter will enable her to forgive Eli.

While Peter’s own marriage with his recently deceased wife appears almost idyllic, there were cracks in that perfect facade. Peter didn’t always follow the folksy advice he gives in his book: “Good love is a quilt—light as feathers and strong as iron”; “Desire for your loved one gives you the strength to paddle on.”

I didn’t particularly like any of the main characters,  but I could easily visualize the quiet and judgmental child/woman struggling with her husband’s betrayal, the awkward outsider trying to get a handle on the clawing and back-biting in the publishing industry, and the conflicted, aging author forced to acknowledge past indiscretions.

A well-written novel that explores the chaos and messiness of relationships.

Many Winding Roads to Success

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The timing was off.

No one wanted to read about the Korean War, the forgotten war that was overshadowed by the immensely unpopular Viet Nam War.

But that didn’t prevent H. Richard Hornberger (using the pseudonym Richard Hooker) from devoting eleven years to writing about his experiences as a surgeon at the 8055th mobile army surgical hospital unit during the Korean War. His agent spent another eight years sending the manuscript to over thirty publishers who soundly rejected it. Hornberger then asked famed sportswriter W.C. Heinz to help him revise it.

A year later, MASH was acquired by William Morrow and Company.

In 1970, MASH was the third-largest grossing film that year and spawned the popular CBS series, which ran from 1972 until 1983.

Oprah and Ayana Mathis

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After reading the first chapter of The Twelve Tribes of Hattie,  Oprah knew she had found her second Book Club 2.0 pick. On yesterday’s Super Soul Sunday, she sat down for an interview with author Ayana Mathis.

Ayana started by describing her experiences at the prestigious Iowa Writers’ Workshop. Grateful for this opportunity to work with Pulitzer Prize winner Marilynne Robinson and other up-and-coming writers, she talked openly about the hopes, dreams and frustrations that lie behind those hallowed walls. When she arrived at the workshop, she was working on another book, a fictionalized memoir. At one critique session, Robinson suggested that her characters were “insufficiently complex.” Ayana took the criticism to heart, had her ugly cry and then turned to writing short stories. Her first story was a hybrid of the first and last chapters of The Twelve Tribes of Hattie.

Inspired by Isabel Wilkerson’s The Warmth of Other Suns, Ayana set her book against the backdrop of the Great Migration.  Starting around 1916,  over six million African Americans migrated north to escape the poverty and hardships of the south. The main character, Hattie Shepherd, is a strong but flawed woman who fiercely loves her eleven children but cannot demonstrate that love. While each chapter focuses on a different child, Hattie is the glue that holds the book together.

In writing this novel, Ayana wanted her readers to encounter a fully, fleshed out black humanity. To that end, she got into the soul of each character and spent as much time as possible in their minds.

When asked about her childhood, Ayana admitted that there was little money and she and her mother often lived in neighborhoods where they couldn’t afford to pay the rent. In spite of their limited circumstances, Ayana was given an enormous amount of freedom and chose her own life path.

Extremely grateful for the success of her debut novel, Ayana admits to being permanently stunned. She still thinks of the book as a Word document.

Quotable Quotes…

Our humanity means we don’t have to be completely defined by race.

We find companions and mirrors in literature.

There is an arc of human history that bends toward social justice.

Character development is a process cultivated over time. Reward comes from reworking.

Movie Review: Quartet

At age seventy-five, Dustin Hoffman has made an outstanding directorial debut with this gentle comedy about aging musicians living at Beecham House, a British retirement house. The film is based on Italy’s Casa di Riposo per Musicisti, first chronicled in the 1984 documentary Tosca’s Kiss.

The musical seniors are rehearsing for the annual gala fundraising concert. When legendary diva Jean Horton (Maggie Smith) arrives, she creates a stir and receives a standing ovation from the other residents.

But not everyone is pleased to see her.

Reggie Paget (Tom Courtenay) still holds a grudge against his ex-wife and fellow member of a London operatic dream team. Two other members of the team, Wilf Bond (Billy Connolly) and Cissie Robson (Pauline Collins), also live at Beecham and hope to persuade Jean to join them and wow the audience with their famous quartet from Rigoletto.

The supporting actors include actual retired stars, among them opera singer Gwyneth Jones and jazz pianist Jack Honeyborne.

Hoffman has provided the perfect backdrop for creative people who refuse to slow down, despite their aging bodies and minds.

Simply delightful from start to finish.



Book Review: My Beloved World

soniasotomayorA dysfunctional home with an alcoholic father and an angry mother forced Sonia Sotomayor to grow up quickly. Throw in a diagnosis of Type 1 diabetes at age seven, “a culture that pushes boys out onto the streets while protecting girls,” and a neighborhood where stairwells were filled with muggers and addicts shooting up. Not the background you would expect for the first Hispanic justice and third female justice in the Supreme Court’s 220-year history.

In her memoir, My Beloved World, Sotomayor reflects on her childhood as the daughter of Puerto Rican parents, her education, her relationships, and her brilliant career.

The self-discipline and perseverance began at a very early age. Faced with a life-threatening disease, a working mother and a father with trembling hands, Sotomayor started giving herself insulin shots at age seven. This “existential independence” set the stage for a remarkable life journey with impressive stops at Princeton, Yale Law, the Manhattan district attorney’s office, and an appointment to the bench.

Sotomayor, however, is quick to point out the obstacles and challenges along the way.

Realizing that she lacked the appropriate study skills in elementary school, she approached the smartest girl in the class and asked her how to study.  When she received a C on her first midterm paper at Princeton, she devoted each day’s lunch hour during subsequent summers to grammar exercises and learning ten new words. After a less than stellar performance at one of the top law firms in Manhattan, she trusted her instincts and applied for a job at the state department.

Unfortunately, this well-honed independence led to the break-up of her marriage to high school sweetheart, Kevin Noonan. Her husband felt she didn’t really need him; Sotomayor didn’t think of “need as an essential part of love.” While she regrets the children she never had, she lavishes love and attention on her many godchildren.

Whenever Sotomayor entered any new environment, she experienced an initial period “of fevered insecurity, a reflexive terror that I’ll fall flat on my face.” But the love and protection of her grandmother Abuelita allowed her “to imagine the most improbable of possibilities” and her mother  taught her that “a surplus of effort could overcome a deficit of confidence.”

Throughout the book, it is evident that Justice Sonia Sotomayor has a deep and sincere love for the “beloved world” that shaped her values. In sharing many of the darker experiences, she has succeeded in showing everyone, especially people in difficult circumstances, that happy endings are possible.

Movie Review: Lincoln

It is not surprising that Daniel Day-Lewis won the Golden Globe and SAG awards for best actor. And I wouldn’t be too surprised if he also won an Oscar for his outstanding portrayal of Abraham Lincoln. He doesn’t just look like Lincoln; he immerses himself and becomes Lincoln. He dominates every scene of the film, displaying the many aspects of the former president’s character. While the folksy storytelling provides the humor, the cagey politicking demonstrates a different aspect of the former president, one not usually portrayed in films.

Director Steven Spielberg confined the main story to a one-month period: January 1865, the beginning of Lincoln’s second term. He wants the 13th Amendment to the Constitution, abolishing slavery, passed in the House of Representatives, and he wants it passed right away. An ambitious plan, Lincoln refuses to be deterred by advisors who deem it impossible given the current makeup of the house.

Most of the scenes in the movie involve politicians sitting or standing in rooms while arguing. While some of these scenes were necessary to demonstrate the process, I felt there were too many of them. I would have preferred more scenes of Lincoln with his wife (Sally Field) and oldest son (Joseph Gordon-Levitt).

The stellar cast also included Tommy Lee Jones as visionary Congressman Thaddeus Stevens. Another Oscar-worthy performance. In her supporting role, Sally Field delivered an outstanding performance as the volatile Mary Todd Lincoln.

Book Review: The Housemaid’s Daughter

housemaidFatherless and unschooled, Ada grows up in service to the Harringtons, a family of Irish immigrants in the remote South African town of Craddock. In spite of her circumstances, Ada receives a well-rounded education from her Madam, Cathleen Harrington. Impressed by the young girl’s intelligence, Cathleen teaches Ada how to read, write and play the piano.

But not everyone is comfortable with Ada’s privileged position in the household. When Cathleen suggests enrolling Ada in school, Master Edward discourages her. “It’ll only lead to trouble later on, expectations and whatnot.”

Spoiled and self-absorbed Miss Rose treats Ada shabbily and refuses to answer any of her questions. “I don’t have time to explain. You haven’t any money so you probably don’t need to learn to count.”

On the other hand, young Master Phil has feelings for Ada and is not afraid to walk with her in town or hug her at the train station.

After Miriam, Ada’s mother, dies and Rose heads for the bright lights of Johannesburg, Ada and Cathleen gravitate toward each other. As this unlikely friendship blossoms, rumblings of apartheid begin to divide the small community. A set of unfortunate circumstances force Ada to leave the only home she has ever known.

A natural storyteller, Barbara Mutch has a wonderful eye for detail and a gift for creating a strong sense of place. I particularly enjoyed reading  the following description of the Great Flood: “At first it was a brisk eddy, then a howl of demented water that went way beyond the Beethoven rush of my youth, or the tumbling Grieg of Mrs. Cath’s Irish stream. This flood had no musical equivalent, and it raged at a pitch both higher and lower than anything I’d ever heard on the piano.”

In her debut novel, Barbara Mutch has provided an interesting perspective on the apartheid era, focusing on how it affected women on both sides of that huge divide in South African society.

Movie Review: Silver Linings Playbook

Silver Linings Playbook is a different kind of romantic comedy. While addressing the challenges faced by those diagnosed with the bipolar disorder, the film succeeds in treating a very serious subject with humor.

When the film opens, Pat Solitano Jr. (Bradley Cooper) is standing in the corner of his room in a Baltimore mental hospital, talking to himself. His mother (Jacki Weaver) shows up to sign him out, against doctors’ orders and without having consulted her husband (Robert DeNiro).

Thrown in the middle of Pat’s chaotic life, many questions come to mind: Why was Pat locked up for eight months? Why have his wife and former school obtained restraining orders against him? Why is Pat Sr. so obsessed with the Philadelphia Eagles football team?

My first impulse was to agree with the doctors. Pat Jr. refuses to take his medication, over-reacts to a song and demonstrates poor impulse control. After flinging a copy of A Farewell to Arms though a closed window at four o’clock in the morning, he awakens his parents with a maniacal rant against Ernest Hemingway. At a diner, he orders Raisin Bran so his female companion won’t think it’s a date.

Sparks fly when he meets Tiffany (Jennifer Lawrence), a grieving widow facing her own demons. Tiffany assumes he will be another sexual conquest, while Pat Jr. wishes only to reconnect with his wife. After agreeing to a deal with Tiffany, the two damaged souls learn to dance together in preparation for a ballroom competition.

I was most impressed by Jennifer Lawrence’s performance. It is not surprising that she won a Golden Globe and she is definitely a contender for an Oscar. Also nominated for both awards, Bradley Cooper captures the intensity and physicality of the bipolar Pat Jr. Robert DeNiro nails the character of a failing bookie with anger management problems and an intense OCD relationship with the Philadelphia Eagles.

A must-see film that is worthy of all the Golden Globe and Oscar nominations it has received.

Many Winding Roads to Success

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Whenever I need a strong dose of inspiration, I refer to the following story about one of the most prolific writers of our time.

A laundry worker, who lived in a trailer, earned $60 a week at his job while his wife worked night shifts. The man had a burning desire to be a writer and  spent his nights and weekends typing manuscripts to send to agents and publishers. Each one was rejected with a form letter that gave him no assurance that his manuscript had ever been read.

Finally, a warmer, more personal rejection letter came in the mail, stating that, although his work was not good enough to warrant publishing, he had promise as a writer and should keep writing.

He forwarded two more manuscripts to the same friendly publisher over the next eighteen months, and as before, he struck out with both of them. Finances got so tight that the young couple had to disconnect their telephone to pay for medicine for their baby.

Feeling totally discouraged, he threw his latest manuscript into the garbage. His wife, totally committed to his life goals and believing in his talent, took the manuscript out of the trash and sent it to Doubleday, the publisher who had sent the friendly rejections.

The book, titled Carrie, sold more than five million copies and, as a movie, became one of the top-grossing films in 1976.

The laundry worker was Stephen King.

Source: Stand and Deliver: How to Become a Masterful Communicator and Public Speaker (Dale Carnegie Training)