Life’s Storms Can Be a Great Source of Strength

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent email:

Hard times are like strong storms that blow against you. And it’s not just that these storms hold you back from places you are trying to go. They also tear away from you all but the essential parts of your ego that cannot be torn, so that you are left only with the foundation of who you really are.

Ultimately you realize you are here to endure these storms, to sacrifice your time and risk your heart. You are here to be bruised by life. And when it happens that you are hurt, or betrayed, or rejected, let yourself sit quietly with your eyes closed and remember all the good times you had, and all the sweetness you tasted, and everything you learned. Tell yourself how amazing it was to live, and then open your eyes and live some more.

Because to never struggle would be to never grow. You must let go of who you were so you can become who you are. Again, it is within the depths of the strongest and darkest storms that you often discover within you an inextinguishable light, and it is this light that illuminates the path forward.

Note: I highly recommend subscribing to Marc & Angel’s website.

Good Enough, Is

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In her book, Let It Be Easy: Simple Ways to Stop Stressing & Start Living, life coach Susie Moore shares insightful gems. Here’s one of my favorites:

Did you know that perfectionism has nothing to do with high standards? It’s about failure anxiety.

A perfectionist rarely works at more than 50 percent of their potential. They’re afraid to take risks. Afraid to ask for help. Afraid to get it wrong. The common theme? Fear.

What if good enough actually is good enough? The most prolific, high-producing, creative, and successful people I know have a big bias toward action. They aim for excellence, not perfection (which doesn’t exist, anyway).

And they reap more. There’s a Spanish proverb, “More grows in the garden than the gardener knows he has planted.”

Reaping is for the planters, even messy planters. I think to myself, If this piece of work, meal, outfit, whatever, is an 8 out of 10, that’s good enough!

Better a bourgeoning, boppin’, wild, alive backyard than the perfectly coiffed rose garden that never blooms.

Source: Let It Be Easy, p. 140.

Honoring Rosalynn Carter

Earlier today, Rosalynn Carter passed away at the age of 96. A mental health advocate and humanitarian, Mrs. Carter served as the first lady of the United States from 1977 to 1981. She chaired the President’s Commission on Mental Health to help promote better services and protect those with mental illness from discrimination.

After leaving the White House, she and her husband co-founded The Carter Center in Atlanta, where they promoted conflict resolution and advanced human rights. She chaired the annual symposium on mental health issues, raised funds to aid the mentally ill and homeless, and advocated for families and professional caregivers living with disabilities and illness. She outlined the challenges of caregiving in her books, Helping Yourself Help Others and Helping Someone with Mental Illness.

In 1999, President Bill Clinton presented the Carters with the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the country’s highest civilian honor.

My favorite quotes from Rosalynn Carter:

A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be.

I believe in mental health care and I believe that we must focus on long-term solutions to the mental health crisis facing our nation.

The measure of a society is how it treats its most vulnerable members.

There are only four kinds of people in the world: Those who have been caregivers. Those who are currently caregivers. Those who will be caregivers, and those who will need a caregiver.

I’ve learned that you cannot predict the outcome of situations or events, but you can control your reactions to them. You can focus on what’s within your control and let go of what’s not.

The best way to enhance freedom in other lands is to demonstrate here that our democratic system is worthy of emulation.

If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.

You must accept that you might fail; then, if you do your best and still don’t win, at least you can be satisfied that you’ve tried.

Never underestimate the power of women. We are agents of change.

It’s never too late to pursue your dreams. Age should never be a barrier to success.

Freedom and Commitment

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A longtime fan of The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, I picked up Warrior of the Light, an inspirational companion to the fable. The following passage is my favorite:

The Warrior hears someone say: “I need to understand everything before I can make a decision. I want to have the freedom to change my mind.”

The Warrior regards these words suspiciously. He too enjoys that freedom, but this does not prevent him from taking on a commitment, even if he does not know quite why he does so.

A Warrior of the Light makes decisions. His soul is as free as the clouds in the sky, but he is committed to his dream. On his freely chosen path, he often has to get up earlier than he would like, speak to people from whom he learns nothing, make certain sacrifices.

His friends say: “You’re not free.”

The Warrior is free. But he knows that an open oven bakes no bread.

Source: Warrior of the Light, p. 47

Change Your Paradigm, Change Your Life

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking excerpt from Mary Morrissey’s recent release, Brave Thinking:

One of my favorite stories that demonstrates the power of paradigm is about an old man who was fishing off a dock, reeling in one fish after another. Next to him stood a bucket and a ruler that was snapped off at the ten-inch mark. The fisherman would throw out his line and every so often, he’d reel in a little fish. Then, he would carefully unhook his catch and lay it down alongside his ruler. He would toss any fish measuring eight or nine inches into his bucket. Pretty soon, there was a big tug on the line. The old guy fought hard with the fish and finally reeled in a beauty. It must have been over a foot long. He placed it alongside his ten-inch ruler, then promptly threw his fish back into the water.

A young man who was new to fishing had been watching the other fellow for hours. Did the older fellow know something he didn’t? Maybe there was an ordinance against catching bigger fish? Overcome with curiosity, he broke the silence. “Gosh, I’ve been watching you all afternoon, and that was the biggest fish you caught so far. It was a beauty. I don’t get it. Why did you throw it back?”

The old man looked up at him and shrugged. “I’ve only got a ten-inch frying pan.”

Our frying pan is the size of the life we know. The Infinite sends us fish, ideas, to nourish us, to build our dreams. When it sends an idea that is bigger than the frying pan, we discard it. We throw it back into the sea of ideas, saying, “No, that won’t fit.” Our paradigms tell us we don’t have the time, the money, or the wherewithal. You can allow an idea into your life, even if you do not know how to achieve it. The Infinite’s currency is ideas. The people who realize their dreams are the ones who are careful not to discard the ideas that can nourish them and lead them to a more abundant life. They realize their frying pan does not span a mere ten inches; rather, its breadth is infinite. When an inspired idea comes your way, let it nourish you.

Source: Brave Thinking, pp. 218-219

Grow Beyond the Unchangeable

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent blog post:

Have patience with everything that remains imperfect or unfinished in your head and heart. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard to stay true to your intuition and values. This is your life, and it is governed by your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your daily choices preach louder than your lips. May your inner sense of satisfaction be your noise in the end.

And if your present life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land — even when there are so many unknowns — be brave enough to stand up and listen to your heart.

Remember that the most powerful moments in life happen when you find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because as Viktor Frankl said, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself — to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything!

Note: I highly recommend subscribing to Marc & Angel’s website.

You’re Apologizing Too Much

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In her book, Let It Be Easy: Simple Ways to Stop Stressing & Start Living, life coach Susie Moore shares insightful gems. Here’s one of my favorites:

Have you ever noticed the overuse of the word sorry, especially by women? We overapologize like crazy! Here are some easy replacements:

Instead of saying, “So sorry I’m a couple of minutes late,” you can say, “Thank you for waiting.”

Instead of saying, “Sorry I messed up,” you can say, “I’ll fix that right now, thanks for pointing it out.”

Instead of saying, “Sorry to bother you,” you can say, “Hey, do you have a moment?”

Saying “sorry” is often a reflex, but it doesn’t have to be. You’re meant to take up space in this world! There’s no prize for being small or unbothersome. Words have power. And so do you.

Source: Let It Be Easy, p. 268

Go Ahead and Do It

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking reflection from international speaker and bestselling author Joyce Meyer:

Do you put off doing things you do not enjoy? Perhaps it’s a maintenance appointment for the car, an unpleasant conversation, a mound of paperwork, paying bills, or a housekeeping chore you find especially laborious. When these things must be done, I encourage you to go ahead and do them. Get them over with. Do them early in the day when your energy level is highest, so you can focus on them and finish them.

Life comes with certain responsibilities. I think the best approach to life is to endeavor to enjoy absolutely everything we do, but when we need to do something we don’t enjoy, procrastinating accomplishes nothing. The longer you put off doing what needs to be done, the longer you will be tempted to dread doing it, and dread will drain your strength and your enjoyment of the present moment.

What have you delayed doing recently? Do your best to accomplish it today so that next time you think about it, you will not have to say, “I dread that.” Instead, you can say, “I did that!”

Source: Strength for Each Day by Joyce Meyer