Look Within Yourself

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:

In order to be optimistic, you have to be generally content with your life. In order to find this contentment, you have to look within yourself. Happiness after all is mostly an inside job.

If you constantly look for happiness outside yourself, by tying it to a specific achievement you must reach for example, you have two big problems:

You may never succeed. – If you feel like something is wrong with you and absolutely needs to be fixed ASAP, but you continuously fall short of fixing it, you will start yourself on a downward spiral where every time you fail to fix it you feel even worse. Eventually you will be unable to succeed simply because you no longer believe in your ability to do so.

You may succeed and decide you want even more. – If you feel like something is wrong with you and absolutely needs to be fixed, and you succeed at fixing it, you will likely find something new about yourself that needs fixing too. Maybe you’ve lost 20 pounds, but now you want tighter abs. Maybe you’ve paid down your debt, but now you want a bank account with a million dollars in it. You get the idea. It’s a never-ending cycle for your entire life. You never reach it, because you’re always looking for happiness from external achievements. You don’t find the happiness from within so you look to other sources.

Optimists set boundaries and disconnect long-term achievement from daily contentment and happiness — they give themselves permission to enjoy each moment without the need for anything more. This isn’t to say that they are complacent. They still set goals, build habits, help others, and grow, but they learn to indulge joyously in the journey, not the destination.

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You’ve Got to Make the Clay

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In her latest release, 1000 Words: A Writer’s Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round, novelist Jami Attenberg, shares her advice and that of over 50 other writers.

Here’s an inspiring essay from Hannah Tinti:

When I was younger, I did pottery. Before I learned how to throw on the wheel, or fire a kiln, or even how to press a pinch pot, my teacher showed us how to make clay. There was a huge barrel of slip in the studio, a trash can filled with water, where everyone would throw their mistakes. Any failed creation (that hadn’t been baked yet) would be recycled back into the mud, and the first step to making new clay was to grab a heavy shovel and start tossing these old mistakes in the giant mixer. Every once in a while, we’d open the lid and check the consistency. If the clay was too dry, we’d throw in another shovel of failure.

This is how I’ve come to think of first drafts. Before you can make a priceless vase or a heartfelt novel, you’ve got to make the clay. And you better put on some overalls, because you’re going to get covered with muck. The good news is, you can recycle some of your old ideas. In fact, using the slurry of previous work ages your clay (like fine wine in an oak barrel), making it stronger and more flexible, which greatly increases the chances that your next creations won’t end up in the slip bucket. So think of your 1000 words today as raw material. It doesn’t have to look like anything yet. But one day you’ll come back to it and spin it into something beautiful.

Source: 1000 Words, p. 157

Beyond the Clutter

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

In the Summer 2024 edition of Oprah Daily, professional organizer Julie Morgenstern shared hard-won wisdom about clutter. Here’s an excerpt from the article:

Being organized is all about being ready. Ready for the phone to ring with a spur-of-the-moment invitation. Ready for an emergency should a crisis erupt. Ready to pursue your passions.

Organizing is the process by which we create environments and schedules that enable us to live, work, and relax exactly as we want. It is a liberating process—an empowering, nurturing, exhilarating journey. And it’s not about getting rid of things. Organizing from the inside out is a drive toward truth. It’s about discovering the truth of who you are and what is important to you. Organizing is not the destination; it is the gateway to achieving your higher goals.

To assess your current level of organization, ask yourself:

Can I find what I need when I need it?

Does my environment allow me to express my whole self?

Am I surrounded only by things I use and love?

Is my day filled with the activities that are most important to me?

If you answered yes to all these questions, relax. You’re doing fine. But if you answered no, the next question is, Are you ready for change?

Surprisingly, the truth lies not in the quantity of piles or in how long you’ve been disorganized. Breakthrough occurs when you suddenly see something on the other side of the clutter that you desperately, vividly want.

So let me give you an assignment. Ask yourself what is on the other side of your clutter? What do you hope to gain? Is it clear? Is it compelling? Are you ready to embrace it? Because the skills it takes to get organized are simple. Beyond the clutter, I promise you’ll find the space and the time to fulfill your dreams.

Give Yourself Grace and Acceptance

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:

As a child you impressed and inspired yourself on a daily basis. You ran, jumped, swung, sang, and danced openly without a care in the world — without worrying about what everyone else thought of you. You didn’t need anyone else’s constant approval, because deep down you knew you were amazing.

But as you grew into adulthood the pressure from peers, popular media, and society as a whole began to wear on you. You started comparing yourself to everyone around you. You judged and measured your body, your lifestyle, your career, and your relationships against other people’s lives. And when you realized that many of these people have things that you do not, bitterness set in and you gradually stopped appreciating all the great things you do have in your life.

Optimists defend themselves against this self-dislike in two primary ways. First, they get back to trusting their own intuition when it comes to their daily activities. They stop asking for everyone else’s approval and simply do what they know in their heart feels right. Second, optimists don’t judge themselves against a set of unrealistic, third-party ideals. They let go of the ideals and instead hold on to the belief that they are always good enough just the way they are, even as they grow into stronger, wiser versions of themselves.

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Plant Success

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Whenever I need a boost, I reread Write Smart, Write Happy by award-winning author Cheryl St. John. Here’s an uplifting excerpt:

More than once I’ve heard the mind compared to land or soil. Land is lying there, available. If you have a yard or a garden, you know this. A farmer knows it, up close and personal. Land doesn’t have an opinion about what becomes of it; it’s ready for anything. If no one ever plows or plants seeds or fertilizes, the land will produce only weeds. Maybe a stray wildflower or tree seed will happen by, and if the weather permits and there is adequate rain and sun, those seeds will grow into plants. Anything that grows is by happenstance.

But a farmer can plow and prepare the soil and plant any crop he wishes—anything from corn to deadly nightshade. Land doesn’t care. It will produce whatever is planted. But land always returns what is planted.

The same is true for our minds. We can let our minds fall idle to whatever happens to fall in and take root. Or we can create goals, prepare our thoughts, and plant success. Our minds don’t care what we plant, but whatever we plant is what will grow and be returned to us.

Source: Write Smart, Write Happy by Cheryl St. John, p. 256

STOP

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking poem from Susan Davidson. She wrote this poem after attending a mindfulness course in Malvern, Worcestershire.

STOP

I used to say ‘Stop the world, I wanna get off’
Now I’ve realised I’m the one who needs to stop

Stop filling every waking minute
Taking every silent space and putting something in it

Stop striving, trying so hard to be the best
When what my mind is crying out for is a rest

Remember kindness, peace and loving
Just breathe, and feel, and notice without judging

Because, as Shakespeare said those many years ago,
‘There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

What Are You Saying?

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Here’s a thought-provoking reflection from international speaker and bestselling author Joyce Meyer:

You’ve probably heard someone say, “You might end up eating those words.” It may sound like a simple expression to us, but in reality, we do eat our words. What we say not only affects our friends and the people around us, but it also profoundly affects us. The question is, how will your words impact your life: positively or negatively?

Words are wonderful when used in a proper way. They can encourage, edify, and give confidence to the hearer. A right word spoken at the right time can be used to change a life.

You can increase your own joy and greatly reduce stress by speaking the right words. You can also upset yourself by talking unnecessarily about your problems or about things that have hurt you. The choice is yours to make today and everyday.

Source: Quiet Times with God by Joyce Meyer

Inspiration from Louise Penny

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

Last month, New York Times best-selling author Louise Penny received an honorary degree from Wilfrid Laurier University in Waterloo, Ontario. Here’s the powerful speech she delivered to the Class of 2024:

My favorite quotations:

“Hope is a revolutionary act, and civility is terrifying to those who would divide us.”

“I am also very grateful to have looked into the void. No gap: no miracles, no joy, no books, no Dr. Penny.”

Give Yourself More Grace

On Wednesdays, I share posts, fables, songs, poems, quotations, TEDx Talks, cartoons, and books that have inspired and motivated me on my writing journey. I hope these posts will give writers, artists, and other creatives a mid-week boost.

A long-time fan of bestselling authors and coaches Marc and Angel Chernoff, I look forward to reading their emails and blog posts. Here’s an excerpt from a recent post:

It’s incredibly easy to overestimate the significance of a single decision, outcome, or event in the heat of the moment. But you must remind yourself to take a deep breath when things don’t go your way. Your results in the long run — good or bad — are always the byproduct of many small steps, outcomes, and events that transpire over time.

The truth is we all fail sometimes. The greater truth is that no single failure ever defines us. Learn from your mistakes, grow wiser, and press on. Character and wisdom are sculpted gradually. They come with loss, lessons, and triumphs. They come after doubts, second guesses, and uncertainty. The seeds of your success are planted in your past troubles and failures. Your best stories will come from overcoming your greatest challenges. Your praises will be birthed from your pains. So, keep standing, keep learning, and keep living.

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