Oprah in Toronto

With over 8500 people assembled at the Metro Toronto Centre,  Oprah achieved her dream of having the world’s largest classroom. Joining her were four Master Class life teachers–Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra and Bishop T.D. Jakes–her spiritual mod squad. The two-hour life class dealt with the power of forgiveness. Throughout the evening, Oprah and the mod squad stressed the fact that forgiveness can set us free.

So many wonderful insights…

Iyanla Vanzant

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.

Too many people are spiritually constipated and emotionally retarded. Forgiveness is a spiritual laxative.

Tony Robbins

Become aware of your love patterns.

Level 1–Baby or brat love

Level 2–Horse Trading (you give only to get)

Level 3–Real love

Level 4–Pure spirit love as demonstrated by Nelson Mandela and Dalai Lama

Deepak Chopra

Process your pain or it will surface as disease.

Holding onto resentment is like holding your breath–you suffocate.

What other people think about you is not your business. If you make it your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.

Bishop T.D. Jakes

Unforgiveness unchecked becomes a cancer in our soul.

Forgive so you can detach from the poison.

If you forget, you lose the wisdom from the experience.

When you taste one segment of your life in isolation, it is bitter. Combine all the segments and it will taste better.

Do not expect people to love on a gallon level if they are pint people.

Irrigate your life with gallon people.

Movie Review: The Way with Martin Sheen

Martin Sheen plays Tom, an American doctor who receives news that his son, Daniel, has been killed on the Camino de Santiago, an 800-kilometre pilgrimage route also known as The Way of St. James. Tom goes to France to collect the body and decides to honour his son’s memory by completing the journey. Along the way, he leaves piles of Daniel’s ashes. Determined to complete this journey on his own, he shrugs off most offers of goodwill and pays little attention to the companions who join him.

The journey transforms Tom and his companions.  As one of the characters comments, “No one walks the Camino by accident.” At the start, each pilgrim has an agenda, but there is a profound shift of values along the way.

Described as a “hymn to travel and transformation,” this inspirational movie includes stunning vistas of the Franco-Spanish trail and a soundtrack featuring such artists as James Taylor, Alanis Morissette and Coldplay.

Memorable lines…

You don’t choose a life, you live one.

Walk the way for yourself.

Miracles happen on the Camino de Santiago.

Do we honour the poor by imitating them?

Interesting note: Emilio Estevez (Sheen’s son) wrote and directed The Way. He also appears briefly in the film as Daniel.


Book Review: Tell It to the Trees

This is not a feel-good book. 

Set outside the fictitious town of Merrit’s Point in northern British Columbia during the 1970s, the story begins with the discovery of a tenant’s frozen body in the backyard of the Dharma family’s isolated home. Montreal-based writer Anita Rau Badami uses four shifting narrators to slowly unveil the sequence of events that led to this tragic death.

We hear from Varsha, the troubled teenage daughter, who was abandoned by her birth mother. Her stepmother, the sweet and gentle Suman, dreams of escaping from Vikram, her abusive husband, while managing the bleak reality of her life with excessive cooking and cleaning. Hemant, the sensitive seven-year old son, is haunted by ghosts and feels burdened by the many secrets floating in the multi-generational Indian home. We also hear from the dead tenant, Anu Krishnan, through her journals.

When Anu Krishnan first arrived at the Dharam home, she enjoyed Suman’s delicious Indian cooking and sat for hours listening to the tales told by Akka, the family matriarch. She welcomed the isolation and felt inspired to write short stories. Soon, however, the perfect facade of the Dharma family unravels and Anu becomes wrapped up in the drama.

The family’s chilling secrets start to come out, despite everyone’s efforts to maintain appearances. While Akka complains about their life in Jehannum (hell), she is fiercely protective of the family and urges the children to hold it in. If the secrets threaten to come out, Varsha and Hemant must tell only the trees.

Another character occupies center stage in this novel: Winter. In a recent interview, Badami admitted to this guilty little secret, “I dread the white nothingness that creeps into my soul and stays there for six long months…It’s not the cold that gets to me as much as the lack of colour. Having grown up in India where colour is overwhelmingly present, my longing of it reaches its zenith during our winters.”

Her dislike of the Canadian winters is apparent in the vivid descriptions throughout the novel. When Suman arrives in Canada, it is late March, “a time when the ground is knee-deep in snow, and your breath hangs like a ghost before your face.” Later, Suman names her son Hemant for winter, the season in which he was born.

Anita Rau Badami skilfully describes the cycle of abuse and how it is passed down through the generations. Many of us have asked the questions: Why doesn’t the woman just leave? Why does she continue to make excuses for the man’s behaviour?

This book provides the answers.

Nuggets from Bishop T.D. Jakes

Oprah said it best. “He isn’t a preacher. He’s a prophet.”

On Monday night, Bishop T. D. Jakes was featured on Oprah’s Life Class. The founder of the 30,000-member Potter’s House Church in Dallas ignited the members of the studio and worldwide audience with his insightful comments. I am looking forward to reading his latest book, Let It Go.

In the meantime, I am  reflecting upon his many nuggets of wisdom.

My Top Five…

5. Don’t allow your situation to become your world when it’s just a launching pad into the next dimension of your life.

4. Don’t ask permission for what you are directed to do.

3. You cannot embrace your destiny if you’re holding on to your history.

2. Don’t let other people put a period where God has put a comma.

1. You need to be around people who make deposits not withdrawals.

What is your favorite nugget?

Book Review: The Dressmaker

Why did only one lifeboat make an attempt to save those dying on the water?

This question sparked Kate Alcott’s interest and the result is The Dressmaker, a riveting novel which peers into the lives of those who survived the sinking of the Titanic.

The story is mainly about Tess Collins, a wannabe dressmaker who was forced by circumstances to become a housemaid. Deciding she could no longer tolerate the conditions of her life, she packed her bags and headed for the dock where the Titanic was set to sail for its maiden and only voyage. She talks her way into going on the boat as a maid for the famous dress designer, Lady Lucille Duff Gordon. Four days later, Tess finds herself in a lifeboat with the unsinkable “Molly Brown.”

Thanks to James Cameron, we are all familiar with the Titanic story. But this book provides insight into what happened when less than eight hundred survivors arrived in New York City. Alcott addresses the aftermath of this tragedy by using documentation of real testimony, skillfully recreating the senatorial hearings and the public outcry that followed many of the revelations. I could actually imagine myself in the room as Lady Duff Gordon and the seamen tried to justify ordering a lifeboat to leave with fifty seats empty. And I could empathize with another survivor as she revealed the details of her husband’s suicide.

I was left wondering how I would act in a similar situation. Would I be courageous and try to help those drowning in the water? Would I welcome extra people into my lifeboat, all the while wondering if it would sink? Or would I let someone else make the decision to sail safely away?

Dinner with Writers Ink

Last evening, seven of us gathered at Symposium Restaurant for our April dinner meeting. We are celebrating the second anniversary of  Guelph Writers Ink.

A bit of history…

After completing Dennis Fitter’s creative writing course, a group of us decided to meet on a monthly basis to discuss our writing journeys. We came up with the following mission statement: We will inspire and encourage each other to write on a regular basis. Last year, Cindy Carroll and several members of Guelph Write Now joined us.

Lots of discussion and advice floated around the table as we discussed epublishing vs traditional publishing, agents, manuscripts and social media. Patricia Anderson, Linda Johnston and I have decided to bite the bullet and start tweeting before the next dinner meeting. No more excuses!!!

Congratulations to Linda Johnston–winner of the door prize.

A reminder…Dennis Fitter’s book, Mexico City, is now available.